@lala Of course US coaches also know about family relations, school progress, and the skaters' relationships. Those are common conversation topics and even if they weren't rink gossip would make its way around to the coach. That in itself is not problematic. What is problematic is for the coaches to get directly involved in those things. The coach is there for skating, not to be the skater's best friend, family member, or significant other.
Reading all this, talking about a grooming culture, don't you think it might mean they might have other report about other persons in that same sport re: figure skating and that it might be that lots of individuals, in that sport are not complying with SafeSport rules? I don't think the problem is about pair skating, the problem is with people being in position of power over an other individual, using this power in a way that it implies sexual misconduct. Some of you were talking about Google to get a straight definition of grooming, maybe googling SafeSport and taking the course would make you understand and wonder what pushes some individual with the obligation to take the course because they are members of USFS(coaches, Board members, etc.) can't comply with those rules. Once again, Safe Sport gives tools to protect yourself from being accused. I wonder if we are dealing with people who thinks they are above anything, any rules and just can do whatever they please.
I took the wording to mean other sports ("in this sport are similar to those... in many others"; sport being the subject here, not situation). It could refer to more cases in figure skating as well. I'm not discounting that this is not a common problem in skating - because especially in the elite levels I'm sure it is. I just think that SafeSport in this statement was trying to put it into a broader context.
Well, certainly there are people who think/know they're above everything. There are plenty of coaches out there that got away with it and continue to get away with it despite their creepiness being general knowledge even to USFSA leadership because of who they know or the results they produce. And then you have that one Russian coach in the US who everyone knows dates/marries barely legal skaters but he can't be gotten because he doesn't coach any US skaters and therefore isn't governed by USFSA and skaters are less likely to report him to SafeSport - and of course he's famous and gets results too. Just like Nassar in Gymnastics and some of the USA swimming coaches implicated (and a bunch of the people in hollywood/business/politics/life) you don't have to use those tools if you think your prominent position will protect you.
Personally I think in the case of pairs skating, that this SafeSport investigation seems to be about, I think it's less a case of people thinking they can get away with it and more a case of skaters being kept in this tiny bubble where they don't know what's right or wrong on both sides of the equation (men and women). Apparently that's what happened in the Alex Naddour case in Gymnastics and what has happened in a few of the USA swimming cases that did not involve coaches. I think for this cultural change and education of skaters/parents about whats appropriate and inappropriate is absolutely needed.
At Synchro Nationals this last week, there was a lot of safe sport discussion. I personally spoke with or listened to conversations between male coaches who span four disciplines of skating, and to a man they were concerned about what could happen to them under Safe Sport. By virtue of the sport, male coaches do sometimes touch females, including young females, especially in dance and pairs. All it takes is one vicious person with a grudge (and anyone who has been in skating knows there’s plenty of them out there) to make a complaint, and your career is over. Doesn’t matter if you are guilty of anything or not.
Safe Sport has some dumb rules, though. Or at least they are dumb as they are being interpreted. We’ve all heard stories of skaters being forced to change in public bathrooms at qualifying competitions - including at Synchro Nationals this weekend. How is that safe?
I’m not saying toss SafeSport, but there is a lot of problems with it in its current state.
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@rfisher said, it's not hard for a coach to simply not be alone with a skater, especially in synchro. If you have a witness (in synchro often other skaters, in singles/pairs/dance often other coaches/skaters) it could help protect you from false allegations.
For skaters that are in a pair - since this seems to be an issue of inappropriate relationships between pairs partners - there needs to be some sort of change. Whether it be encouraging skaters not to date their partner, having witnesses, a wider cultural change, etc. But that's different than the coach-student thing, so it needs to be figured out. I don't know if I think more rules would help - people break rules all the time - but I do think there needs to be some more guidance provided not just to the coaches but also to skaters. What SafeSport seems to be referring to seems to be less of a coach grooming a student problem (although that does happen and needs to be fixed), but a skater-to-skater problem. In that case telling the coaches is good, but telling the skaters and parents directly might have a more direct impact on the problem.
It is ridiculous that competitors at synchro competitions often have to change in public bathrooms. With more men's skaters in the sport it seems USFS now has a separate men's changing room available, but it's often very inconvenient. Generally what I've seen or heard is that it's done on a case-by-case basis. If the guy is comfortable and the girls are comfortable the guy can change in there with the girls (there's plenty of witnesses); if not he goes into the hockey bathroom, uses the men's changing room, or goes to the public bathroom. More commonly, though, everyone is now just wearing their costumes to/from the rink to minimize changing in a locker room setting. So, yeah, it's violating safesport rules, but I think it's good the rules are in place because the vast majority of skating and synchro is not men changing with women being the standard anyways nor should it be.
In Safe Sport it is called the rule of two!!! so simple, you text a student, you copy someone else, you talk or have a meeting, you have another coach with you and do it somewhere public. It's purely basic commun sense that is not just specific to skating world ... your students skaters whatever are not your friends!! you need to keep the relationship professionnal! You cannot save stupid people from themselves. If coaches are given tools to dictate how they should behave and decided not to follow those rules, or think that those rules are not for them what can people do!!
TBH it shocks me how many coaches are social media friends with their underage students. Some of the younger coaches I know even hang out with students near the rink. Even if it's a female coach with female students or even if the students are already in high school I'm always shocked by someone thinking that's appropriate.
Teachers can't friend students on social media until that student is no longer a student (graduated). Camp counselors or tutors can't friend campers/students until that person is 18+
and out of the program (although I've seen places that say not even then). Healthcare providers can't even google their patients outside of what's strictly needed for work purposes at work, let alone friend them on social media. In all those cases hanging out with them is highly unprofessional except under very particular circumstances (eg. a former student who becomes a colleague) and can lead to someone getting fired. I don't know why it's accepted in figure skating or any youth sport.
This isn't just skating - and in fact I think skating's better than some other sports about it - but travel is also highly problematic. In skating a parental chaperone (your own or another skater's parent) is generally required. My youth team required at least one chaperone in each room.
In other sports I had friends on high school travel teams for (Volleyball, Soccer, Swimming, Field Hockey) it was common to have no parents come due to the frequent travelling (usually every weekend or every other weekend during the season with plenty of 3 to 5-day-weekend tournaments thrown in there) and just to have members of the mens and womens teams mingle and mix in the hotel. In swimming especially I heard there was a LOT of drinking and partying on these trips because that's what happens when you have 10+ teens chaperoned by maybe one coach for a whole weekend (idk how the hotel rooms got booked with so few 18+ people on the trip - maybe a block under the coach's name?).
Now in pairs I don't see the same partying problem being a thing, but with frequent travel the skaters may be sharing a hotel room or may only have limited chaperones (maybe even only a coach), and I could see that leading to some very problematic situations.