From the Bloc
I realize this is just a message board and people want to amuse (as you often do ) and be supportive of one another based on very little other than what we choose to tell each other.I'd have suggested he stick a red hot poker right up his arse and go and eff himself. The fact you didn't kill him is nearly as big an achievement as giving birth
However. I find this type of conversation, which so often involves the very stereotypes we all say we want to put an end to about husbands and wives and men and women and fathers and mothers, to be very counterproductive.
I wasn't in the delivery room and I don't know quartz's husband but I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt that when he said "I thought you were stronger than this" that his intentions might have actually been good. Maybe he was trying to be encouraging in his assigned role of coach, like a personal trainer might say "come on, you can do this, only three more!" or a friend might say when you are down, "don't let this get to you, you're stronger than this, I know you are."
And, if he has no idea what it's like to give birth, maybe someone should tell him, and not in "what do you know you stupid man" way but in a "here's what this is like, I need you to understand this so that you can support me the way I support you when you go through stuff that I don't really have experience with but want to be there for you" way.
Frankly there are times when my husband who knows me better than anyone else, better than I know myself at times, when he tells me to be stronger, that he's disappointed in something I did, to quit making excuses or simply to get the f*ck over myself. And he's almost always right, and I'm glad he's honest with me because I'm honest with him and say the same stuff to him when I think he needs it. 34+ years and we've never been happier.