A woman who really hated the aristocracy and the idea of a life of public service under the scrutiny of the public eye would never have seriously dated Prince Harry. She would rather have just
real fast in the opposite direction.
And it does have a fairy tale aspect to it, Aftershocks - the wealth, the privilege, the status, the glamor, and and being treated the way royalty are treated.
Yep, there were two women Prince Harry was serious about previously who wanted no part of the scrutiny and royal downsides of marrying Harry. Fortunately, he learned from those relationships the importance of conducting any future serious courtship as privately as possible.
Of course, there is that 'fairytale' aspect of British Prince meets Hollywood actress who's American, divorced, and so-called 'bi-racial.' However, I believe thinking of it all as a romantic 'fairytale' is just the myth-like, convenient cliche. Based on what I've read and know from reading what Meghan's written, listening to her interviews, and following her Instagram and her former Tig website, she's someone who has always aspired to be successful in life and to live her best life and to enjoy every moment to the fullest. At the same time, she's always made it a priority to give back to others. She admits to being 'endlessly ambitious,' which is actually a good quality if you are looking to succeed, and not a quality to side-eye. On top of that, I think she has a strong personality, she knows what she wants and she goes after it, and she seemingly has always known how to network and how to hustle, and how to not let her spirits get down when the going is tough.
Therefore, she was already leading a so-called 'fairytale' life success story well before she met her Prince of England. IOW, she was happy, fulfilled, grateful, giving back, and also looking for more ways to share her success with others and to use her success as a platform for humanitarian projects. Meeting Prince Harry was certainly serendipity and fate. They were both ready to meet, and they had mutual friends so that's how they met. Meghan was not fazed by meeting Prince Harry, although I'm sure she was excited about the opportunity to meet him. I also believe her when she said during the engagement interview that one of her main concerns was whether or not he was kind. Obviously, once they met there was a spark between them. But most of all, they have a lot of things in common, despite what we see on the surface as them coming from different backgrounds.
Harry seemingly was to a degree bored with some aspects of the life he led behind palace walls (although of course, he also enjoys the many perks of being a royal, which obviously aided in his ability to woo and to win his sweetheart). Highbrow trips to Africa with security protection, spending romantic nights under the stars, and meeting Harry's wealthy friends and conservation-minded friends and humanitarian friends; VIP midnight visit to a London museum; being whisked right off the airplane to VIP checkout and then into a limousine without having to be dogged by cameras; stays at exclusive hideaway luxury hotels in Norway (to see the northern lights) and in Jamaica (keeping in mind that Meghan was a traveler who had seen the northern lights before, and seen Jamaica before). But of course, she now enjoys a headier privilege and status as HRH Duchess of Sussex to go along with a higher level of adventures with her handsome prince of a husband.
There is that, but with every luxury and every perk comes responsibility, and I think Meghan is aware of that reality. Still, obviously the perks and being in love can make the difficult challenges bearable. She did actually have to make sacrifices and give up a lot in order to marry Prince Harry.
To me
the way Harry & Meghan came together is more of a great love story than it is a fairytale. I think in many ways they are very grounded and normal, and that part of Meghan's appeal for Harry is her normality, as well as her strength in carving out a successful career in Hollywood. I think it helped to build Harry's character that his mother taught him and Prince William to see another side of life, and to witness as youngsters how other people live. That helped make Harry and William down to earth and not stuck up.
We should realize from Diana's life that marrying into royalty is not really a fairytale. There's really no such thing as 'happily ever after.' So for the Duke & Duchess of Sussex, I think they both understand the commitment, dedication and personal attention it will take for them to nurture their relationship, to face and overcome challenges, and to persevere in making a difference for others with their humanitarian projects. At the same time, they will be carrying out increasing public duties involved with being part of the royal firm. None of that is easy. Sure it can be uplifting, rewarding, exciting, and glamorous, but there's always a downside. I think what makes Prince Harry happy is knowing he now has Meghan to share the downside and upside of being a royal with him. The grand things that he took for granted growing up royal, he surely can now appreciate more and enjoy to a greater degree with Meghan in his life.
For Duchess Meghan, maybe she does look upon this experience as a fairytale to a degree, but she has sense enough to know such a life involves hard work as well as adventures and luxuries (which she's not a complete stranger to in any case). Perhaps the royal wedding day was like a fairytale, but then at some point any couple, royal or commoner, has to come back down to earth. Nothing in life comes easy for anyone. I'm sure Meghan did not walk into this new life without understanding all that she was getting into (the heady glamour, the tough decisions behind-the-scenes, the restrictions and the perks, the downside of media intrusion, and the opportunity to make a difference on a larger scale). Fortunately, as Harry said during the engagement interview:
"We make a great team." So they will have each other's backs. Prince Harry is probably pinching himself everyday that he not only finally found someone who's willing to fully embrace him and his royal life, but that she's also someone he's head over heels in love with, who's gorgeous, sexy, accomplished, supportive, genuinely sweet, shares his interests, and gets along well not only with his family, but also with the Queen's corgis.
I don't have time to join the convo right now, but I'll be back. 
Almost made me feel positive about Brexit 
Duchess slant and all, but because they were crossed, it was the cause of much 
But we'll never know for sure, now will we, unless we become a fly on the wall inside NottCott. 
