AxelAnnie
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From Willin
As @It is not "technically" illegal. It is TOTALLY illegal. To say irresponsible, horrid role modeling, and encouraging out of control behavior. So, in your universe, drinking is in, but SafeSport allegations are in.
Twisted world.[/QUOTE]
I was debating whether or not it was worth it to reply to you, since you won't care about my reply or the actual realities of the situation. (And it's somewhat off topic)
Yes, I do think it does encourage out of control behavior in some situations, like the situations where parents send their kids to hotels with booze or where the parents leave the house when the kids hold a massive party the parents furnished the alcohol for or the cases where athletes go out to party together during travel competitions. All are bad and can lead to SafeSport or police reports.
But it many other situations I think it's perfectly acceptable. I know many people who didn't go through a binge drinking or party phase in college because their parents taught them how to drink in high school. When you have a glass of wine with the family every so often or have a round of beers with your friends at your house, drinking is no longer a novelty to exploit once you get to college. If your parents let you get drunk around them, you'll learn your limits so when you do get to college you'll know how many drinks you can safely have. I don't see an issue with that at all. In fact I think it's a good thing. For as many kids as I saw that drank with their parents present in high school and drank smartly in high school, I saw 10 more who weren't allowed to drink in high school and then had a lot of bad things happen to them once they got access to it in college (rape, sexual assault, hospital trips, injuries, academic probation, etc.)
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How do you know about care about? As to "realities of the situation(s)" that is up for grabs.
I would love to say that your observations prove the point. However, they don't. A glass or taste of wine at holidays (I am a Jew....we always have a blessing over wine). It doesn't necessarily create restraint. Just as feeding your child a healthy diet does not necessarily mean when on their own they won't eat poorly (freshman 10 anyone?)
Would you advocate sharing your Vicodin with kids in your home........so they know what it feels like, and won't do drugs later?
I highly recommend The Lost Years by Kristina Wandzilak and Constance Curry. Condoning something at home is condoning something.
Alcohol is a bitter beast. (It is not better, worse or the same as sexual assault just different).
And because alcohol is an accepted "drug" it is insidious. Giving kids a taste....great. (IMO) Giving your kid and friends a couple of rounds of beer..........really?
SafeSport (IMO) in order to be effective needs to get their poop in a group. Not that the issues should not be investigated......they should. In an atmosphere of safety for all parties. Not just the alleged aggrieved.
As @It is not "technically" illegal. It is TOTALLY illegal. To say irresponsible, horrid role modeling, and encouraging out of control behavior. So, in your universe, drinking is in, but SafeSport allegations are in.
Twisted world.[/QUOTE]
I was debating whether or not it was worth it to reply to you, since you won't care about my reply or the actual realities of the situation. (And it's somewhat off topic)
Yes, I do think it does encourage out of control behavior in some situations, like the situations where parents send their kids to hotels with booze or where the parents leave the house when the kids hold a massive party the parents furnished the alcohol for or the cases where athletes go out to party together during travel competitions. All are bad and can lead to SafeSport or police reports.
But it many other situations I think it's perfectly acceptable. I know many people who didn't go through a binge drinking or party phase in college because their parents taught them how to drink in high school. When you have a glass of wine with the family every so often or have a round of beers with your friends at your house, drinking is no longer a novelty to exploit once you get to college. If your parents let you get drunk around them, you'll learn your limits so when you do get to college you'll know how many drinks you can safely have. I don't see an issue with that at all. In fact I think it's a good thing. For as many kids as I saw that drank with their parents present in high school and drank smartly in high school, I saw 10 more who weren't allowed to drink in high school and then had a lot of bad things happen to them once they got access to it in college (rape, sexual assault, hospital trips, injuries, academic probation, etc.)
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How do you know about care about? As to "realities of the situation(s)" that is up for grabs.
I would love to say that your observations prove the point. However, they don't. A glass or taste of wine at holidays (I am a Jew....we always have a blessing over wine). It doesn't necessarily create restraint. Just as feeding your child a healthy diet does not necessarily mean when on their own they won't eat poorly (freshman 10 anyone?)
Would you advocate sharing your Vicodin with kids in your home........so they know what it feels like, and won't do drugs later?
I highly recommend The Lost Years by Kristina Wandzilak and Constance Curry. Condoning something at home is condoning something.
Alcohol is a bitter beast. (It is not better, worse or the same as sexual assault just different).
And because alcohol is an accepted "drug" it is insidious. Giving kids a taste....great. (IMO) Giving your kid and friends a couple of rounds of beer..........really?
SafeSport (IMO) in order to be effective needs to get their poop in a group. Not that the issues should not be investigated......they should. In an atmosphere of safety for all parties. Not just the alleged aggrieved.