misskarne
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I am a little confused about the end of your post. But you are correct that men must change, and need to be held to account. Hence my comment about the women who just let it slide. I am not blaming them for what happened with a yucky, disgusting man, only for them not handling it, and keeping silent.
Women are not weak and simpering. We are tough cookies who have the ability to bring these scumbags down.
You're a pig.
You know what happened the first time I had a customer start screaming at me at work? A male customer? Screaming and screaming with aggression? I didn't snap back. I didn't lash out at him.
I shut down.
My brain froze, my limbs froze, everything froze, and it was all I could do to type "HELP" into our work chatbox. My voice wouldn't work. My mind wouldn't work. Every bit of training we'd had about how to handle abusive callers did not help (and we got a lot of training on that). Every scenario and discussion about how to deal with that sort of behaviour did not help. I was frozen and unresponsive and if he had been there in person, and not just over the phone, I have no doubt that he could have laid hands on me without my being able to do a thing about it. I could not do anything until one of my bosses came and laid her hand on my shoulder and whispered in my ear to get rid of him, to end the call or send it to a senior. And then I started crying, and crying, and crying.
Now I got lucky that day. I was in a highly supportive work environment where immediately I had people around me, hugging me, picking me up from my chair. Taking me to a quiet room and just letting me babble about what had just happened. Offering me tea and comfort and support. To have our director come and look me in the eye and tell me they will never judge me for hanging up on a customer, that in such a situation they will always, always have my back.
But now:
Now put me into a situation where an executive is physically harassing, and knowing he has a clause that says he can't be fired for it. Now put me into a situation where he can actually lay hands on me, and if I tell anyone, it'll be that I asked for it, that I should have known better. Where going to the bosses will do exactly nothing to help. Where no-one will believe you because he's such a powerful man.
Situations where worthless pieces of shit like you would then tell me, "SHAME ON YOU FOR NOT SAYING ANYTHING!"
I always thought the idea of a misogynitic woman was exaggerated - until I read your posts. I'll never understand how a woman can hate other women as much as you do.