Erin
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I clearly never have had what it takes to be a gymnast. I would have quit the sport after the first day.
You could surprise yourself. I don’t think of myself of particularly tough but I survived five years of competitive gymnastics. Some coaches are better/nicer than others. Some days are better than others. I will say that even some of the ones I really liked had some behaviour that would probably be considered borderline abusive today, mostly related to pushing me to do skills I was really scared of. I have memories of being left for hours on my own at an event until I would do a skill that I was scared to do. I get what the coaches were trying to do, and they were probably right that I was capable of doing the skill, but I don’t think that was the most effective way to get me to do it, for a multitude of reasons. The other thing most of them did, even the good ones, was assume anytime you were injured that you were faking it to get out of doing something. Not to the extent of Haney, but far more than anyone ever actually faked an injury.
Now, the most abusive coach I had, I only lasted about three months with, but I was older and had a lot of injuries...if I had been younger and healthier, I might have put up with it. As it was, I continued coaching at that gym, so she became my boss instead of my coach, so it’s not like I got rid of her entirely anyway. The thing was that even she could be really nice sometimes...you just never knew when she was going to turn on you. But when people ask why gymnasts put up with it, I think that’s part of it. The coaches often aren’t awful 100% of the time, so you convince yourself that it is going to be OK or that it’s your own fault.