jeffisjeff
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at this.. what a crazy 'article'
Well, it is RT.
at this.. what a crazy 'article'
Well, it is RT.
That's just not realistic, though. Some high school students are 18, should they not be allowed to date classmates who aren't 18 yet?In my opinion, Nobody over the age of 18 should be dating someone under the age of 18....
Is that typical? Are they a "yellow press" outlet? I'm not too familiar
"RT" stands for Russian Trolls. What more do you need to know?Is that typical? Are they a "yellow press" outlet? I'm not too familiar
Is that typical? Are they a "yellow press" outlet? I'm not too familiar
Oh, I do disagree with this. With a black and white rule like you described, I could start dating a guy when I was 15 and he was 16 (which would be perfectly fine at the time), and then when he turned 18 and I was still 17 it would be suddenly not allowed. Which would obviously be stupid. I think close-in-age exceptions are a good idea in general (and they don't apply in situations where one person is in a position of power).I think all sports organizations and high schools should require mandatory education on consent and what a LEGAL relationship involves.
In my opinion, Nobody over the age of 18 should be dating someone under the age of 18.... Especially if they enter in to a sexual relationship. However, if a high school senior dates a high school freshman (non-athletes) how can we tell a 18/19-year-old male skater that he can’t date a 14 or 15-year-old female skater? Or vice versa. It gets complicated but maybe set/clear rules need to be established, along with mandatory training for the skaters themselves.
I just feel that things get really messy when you have a minor/adult relationship even if it’s only several years difference, and then add in consent issues? It’s just best to steer clear of everything and have some black-and-white rules to follow.
They're Putin's house organ. They make Fox News look independent. I'm sure anything that reflects badly on US skating is just fine with them.
Even as Russia insists that RT is just another global network like the BBC or France 24, albeit one offering “alternative views” to the Western-dominated news media, many Western countries regard RT as the slickly produced heart of a broad, often covert disinformation campaign designed to sow doubt about democratic institutions and destabilize the West.
My husband is 18 months older than me we started dating when I was 15 and he was 16. We've been together for 50 years. Hard fast rule would have had 18 months of no dating and possibly ended the relationship for good.
I'm curious, of the parents who are reading the thread, did you discuss consent with your children (or will you) as they approach the teen years? I know mine never did. I know most evangelical parents don't (I've know too many of them whose children had sex with no clue about sex except you weren't supposed to do it---and we know how well that advice is taken). I certainly think teens and younger children understand the concept, but how many parents explicitly discuss this with their children. While I think sports organizations that have young health teenagers as members should take responsibility, parents should start this conversation at home first. Hopefully, more parents are comfortable discussing this with their children given the amount of discussion in the media over the last several years.
In my opinion, Nobody over the age of 18 should be dating someone under the age of 18....
Also a lot of the discussion about drinking, etc. Granted, if viewed in isolation maybe Coughlin was drunk, but considering there's evidence of a pattern of behaviour at this point, I don't think that could reasonably be considered the deciding factor. This was who Coughlin was, drunk or sober.Yeah, I’m really confused about the age of consent and all this chat in the last few pages.
Also a lot of the discussion about drinking, etc. Granted, if viewed in isolation maybe Coughlin was drunk, but considering there's evidence of a pattern of behaviour at this point, I don't think that could reasonably be considered the deciding factor. This was who Coughlin was, drunk or sober.
Voluntary intoxication is not a defense to a charge of sexual assault. But, yes, all indications are that he didn't let mere sobriety stop him.Also a lot of the discussion about drinking, etc. Granted, if viewed in isolation maybe Coughlin was drunk, but considering there's evidence of a pattern of behaviour at this point, I don't think that could reasonably be considered the deciding factor. This was who Coughlin was, drunk or sober.
I didn't suggest it was. I was addressing the notion of whether drinking culture contributed to the situation.Voluntary intoxication is not a defense to a charge of sexual assault.
Noted, but then again there isn't any particular reason to assume that Coughlin himself had anything to drink that night.I didn't suggest it was. I was addressing the notion of whether drinking culture contributed to the situation.
I'll go out on a limb and say that any young person who spends most of his/her time in a cloistered environment of one sort or another -- not necessarily elite sports -- is going to be much more likely to be emotionally immature and inexperienced for his/her age. (Coming from someone who went to a parochial high school.)
The boys in skating are fawned over and made to think they're all that if they're pair or dance skaters, and the girls are decked out like gorgeous little Christmas trees to perform, and the coaches are frequently young, and boys without much dating experience can figure out that it's easier to pick on younger females. That's a lot of negative cultural impact, right there.
I know most evangelical parents don't (I've know too many of them whose children had sex with no clue about sex except you weren't supposed to do it---and we know how well that advice is taken).
The setting, as described, was a party where there was lots of alcohol being consumed, so it's not unreasonable to think so, though there is no evidence one way or another on the current record.Noted, but then again there isn't any particular reason to assume that Coughlin himself had anything to drink that night.
Speaking as a person who was raised in a cloistered environment, I would say that not only is all of that true, but such environments also commonly engage in social blindness. I took a class in the sociology of American sects a few years ago in which we discussed the concepts of gemeinshaft (community) and gesellschaft (society). The smaller and tighter the community, the higher the level of tolerance for what might simplistically be called "bad behavior" because such tolerance is what allows the community to live peacefully together. If you "don't see" something, it can't disrupt the community.
They also teach, implicitly and explicitly, that females are responsible for male sexuality--that the way you dress, behave, socialize and comport yourself can lead men astray, which means that men and women think that women are to blame when men cross those lines.
Apparently this attitude exists outside of fundamentalist/evangelical groups as well.
As someone who grew up homeschooled in a very evangelical environment, I had base level sex education that ended with “don’t have sex until marriage” and I learned about consent and how that works from the internet.I'm curious, of the parents who are reading the thread, did you discuss consent with your children (or will you) as they approach the teen years? I know mine never did. I know most evangelical parents don't (I've know too many of them whose children had sex with no clue about sex except you weren't supposed to do it---and we know how well that advice is taken). I certainly think teens and younger children understand the concept, but how many parents explicitly discuss this with their children. While I think sports organizations that have young health teenagers as members should take responsibility, parents should start this conversation at home first. Hopefully, more parents are comfortable discussing this with their children given the amount of discussion in the media over the last several years.