Is your cousin looking for advice, or does she just need someone to vent to?
No one is making things up, but just using what you posted back at you. A lot of your statements are very judgmental and that's why people are telling you that you should probably butt out of the situation.
Writing that I said something about only unwed pregnant ladies should be scared? Or that my cousin was artificially inseminated by a gay man? Or that I thought that the doctors were trying to get money by doing so many ultrasounds?
Cousin is venting AND asking me if I know anything about whatever/can you look this up, etc. (She's less tech savvy than I am). I'm not butting into anything. I am 40 miles away. I reply to her emails, which are also about other stuff.
She didn't even mention anything about the dwarfism possibly when we met for lunch on November 7. Then I get a hysterical email about the OB texting the pregnant daughter. And longer and more frequent emails than I have gotten in YEARS.
As for judgmental, just reporting the facts and opinions and clarifying things to people who comment their feelings. And as for the father, I'd like to see someone spin unicorns and rainbows out of that mess. 24 years old, lives with a bunch of guys who think it's a frat house and who had the electricity turned off because they didn't pay the bill; drives a 20 year old car (not a registered classic car, a beat up pimpmobile -- cousin doesn't know cars and I can only see the driver's door, but I'm thinking it might be an old "boat" of a Cadillac or something?); was going to give cousin's daughter $500 months ago but needed it for some electronic song writing equipment (cousin says he writes songs on the computer and thinks he is going to be the next big thing - she mentioned it at lunch <with plenty of eye rolling and huffing> and in an email - I'm not exactly sure what she meant because she didn't know what she meant either!!!); almost didn't make the shower because said car broke down on I-70; he did just get another job - at a bar, which is all fine and dandy. Maybe he's a bouncer? Or can make good tips charming the ladies. Who knows. Cousin said her daughter already would not leave the baby alone with him or let him drive them anywhere.
The Facebook page really disturbed me. His cover picture is him wearing black pants, a black shirt and a black jacket leaning against the pimpmobile smoking a cigar looking like someone who should be driving a pimpmobile. And his comment about his own picture was some current rap/hiphop type language that I would take to mean he thinks he's god's gift to women. Then there's the picture of his gun collection. No it's not a bunch of cute little guns in safe boxes or hunting rifles in a nice locked maple cabinet. It's a variety of black guns laid out on a table that kind of reminds me of a police drug raid on the news. Father of the year? I think not.
(Oh no. Now I am going to get replies saying I am insulting their fathers who own guns!)
Cousin already wants to "smack him into next week". I didn't mention the gun picture thing. None of my business, huh?
Just trying to be available by checking email three times a day (and no, neither of us have smart phones). When it actually baby time, she'll probably call from the hospital on her daughter's phone.
And I AM just writing all this to strangers because I absolutely would not discuss any of this with our other relatives. My cousin and I have always been friends. We used to write letters on real stationery with colored pens all through high school cause they lived 100 miles away. Her one brother is a staunch Catholic. And she hasn't spoken to her deceased brother's widow since they had a big blow up about her sexual orientation in 2004. (I was getting emails at work back then from both sides about the other. Geez.) Cousin's daughter and deceased cousin's daughters, who would be her cousins themselves, do not speak. And one of THEM is a doctor and a mother now, which would probably be a helpful person to talk to. But no...............
They all give me a headache. I don't need it from here too! Thank you, meggonzo, for being kind.
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