my little pony
white women can't be trusted 3.0
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exactly how bland do you like your food?
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Susan.....I am glad the ultra sound went well.
And, really.....................you need to step back! It is a train wreck waiting to happen on so many levels.....You can't stop it sounds like, so just get out of the way.
I don't mean to be cruel.....just realistic. I am hyper vigilant. I had an employer tell me once (nicely) that, obviously g-d had appointed me as the person to figure out all the things that could go wrong, before the sentence was out of her mouth. I am really good at it.... However, it is not a skill people are interested in. LOL! So, I totally get where you are coming from. It does sound like no one is following your advice or rules of common sense.
I am horrified that someone would leave a baby with someone who has a mobility problem. And that is just the tip of the iceberg. The best thing someone could do may be to call Child Protective Services. From all you have said, these two are not good decision makers, and a child is at stake.
It doesn't sound like you can protect Lynne and her daughter from themselves, but you can protect that new life.
I just picture my 56 year old disabled cousin raising a baby (and a dog) on her own. (And we all love dogs, so........) CS spends all day at school, then works till the store closes. She wanted to fix up their basement like it would be their own apartment, but Lynn can't even go down the steps anymore. She uses a cane quite a lot and a TENS unit. Now she has this shoulder problem. If she's going to be in charge of the baby 16 hours a day, everything will have to be on the main floor. She's already said she won't be able to be carrying the baby, the seat, the diaper bag, and whatever else paraphernalia in and out of the car to go places alone very often.
As for debit cards, as many have explained to you, they are not the same as ATM cards and a transaction is not considered a withdrawal.
It's certainly normal for babysitters to keep the baby at home during the day. Why does the grandmother even need to take the baby out without the daughter's help? Not to mention they seem like the type to have a backup plan, so I doubt any meddling in this area is needed.
The idea that CPS needs to be called because a partially disabled person with some mobility issues cannot watch a baby during the day is ridiculous & just mean. Any person who would pick up a phone to call CPS based on the information provided thus far in this thread is beyond reason & not giving much thought to how insulting such comments are to the disabled.
Well, the card I have used for ATM withdrawals as long as I can remember (25? years) says "DEBIT" at the bottom right, above the brand of card it is. It has my picture on it. I subtract the amounts from my checking account. It shows up in the bank statement as an ATM withdrawal. My credit card, same bank/same brand, does not have my picture on it. I get a credit card statement for anything I charge. I have to keep them in separate places in my wallet because they are the same color!!!
A debit transaction is not the same as an ATM transaction. It is not an ATM withdrawal. Yes, the money comes out of your account (I'm not sure what else you would expect). But that does not make it an ATM transaction (which some banks have limitations on or fees for if you use an ATM that doesn't belong to them, you are correct). A debit transaction is, essentially, the equivalent of writing a check. Any fees associated with debit transactions are paid by the retailer, not your bank. That is why some retailers, particularly small businesses, have a minimum amount for a debit transaction.
Most people use debit cards now and use them frequently. It is not irresponsible, does not cost extra fees and is not something you should be criticizing. Most businesses no longer accept paper checks so debit or credit cards are the only alternative to cash. Most people do not carry a lot of cash anymore, which is not at all irresponsible, either. If your debit card is lost or stolen, the bank can freeze it. If your cash is stolen, it is gone.
You use your debit card and then track your balance in your bank's app or your online account. It's not that complicated. I've never balances a checkbook in my life.
When a grandma is taking care of a grandchild it is not always a forced issue. I voluntarily take care of mine. It is a joy. It is time with them that I can't do at a later time because they're little only once. This grandma who has and will take twins and 5/6 year old (4 in total) out...never did with infants, especially under 9 months because there is a lot of crap to take. It is not like 28 years ago with my kids were little, there is about 5 times more equipment because of changes in child safety things.
And then there is my daughter who went from 2cm to 10 in 30 minutes! Efficiency..
Technically, 10cm is when the lady can start pushing. From that point, it can be quick or it can be hours until the baby actually comes out.even I know from t.v. that 10 cm is time for the baby to come out
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And, I guess I was thinking about all the warnings for ordering stuff online, to not use a debit card because that can't be traced if you get ripped off, whereas you can get your money back if you use a credit card?
You use your debit card and then track your balance in your bank's app or your online account. It's not that complicated. I've never balances a checkbook in my life.
Witch!! Burn her!
I always sit at home with my abacus after a hard day of shopping.
once_upon said:Women can be 2 cms dilated for weeks. Not an issue..I was in labor for an entire 10 hour shift and did not drop a kid or embarrass/shock anyone. My leave with one of my kids was used prior to birth because I had been on bedrest for 5 weeks. I went back to work when he was 2 weeks because I needed to.
Technically, 10cm is when the lady can start pushing. From that point, it can be quick or it can be hours until the baby actually comes out.
As for debit cards, as many have explained to you, they are not the same as ATM cards and a transaction is not considered a withdrawal.
Former bank teller/head teller here. Debit cards absolutely ARE the same as an ATM card; in fact, they ARE an ATM card. My bank gives out ATM/Debit cards, and has since 2001 (and now are issuing the new chipped cards to replace the old-fashioned card). Mine says DEBIT on the front, and has a Mastercard logo, card number and expiration date on the front, and a security code on the back.
You can use it as an ATM card to make withdrawals from an ATM by swiping and entering your pin. Or you can swipe it at any store that accepts credit cards and either select "credit," in which case the amount of the purchase simply comes out of your checking or whatever bank account is linked to it, or you can select "Debit" if you want to get money back, in which case you have to punch in your pin. You also get assessed a bank fee if you take money out of your account at a store cash register, depending on which bank you are with.
I use mine using the "Credit" option and the money comes right out of my checking account and posts the next day. So much for that not being considered a "withdrawal."
You can also use them to make online purchases the same as you would a credit card, but that IMO is incredibly STUPID because you are opening your bank account up for anyone who happens to hack your card number.
Former bank teller/head teller here. Debit cards absolutely ARE the same as an ATM card; in fact, they ARE an ATM card. My bank gives out ATM/Debit cards, and has since 2001 (and now are issuing the new chipped cards to replace the old-fashioned card). Mine says DEBIT on the front, and has a Mastercard logo, card number and expiration date on the front, and a security code on the back.
You can use it as an ATM card to make withdrawals from an ATM by swiping and entering your pin. Or you can swipe it at any store that accepts credit cards and either select "credit," in which case the amount of the purchase simply comes out of your checking or whatever bank account is linked to it, or you can select "Debit" if you want to get money back, in which case you have to punch in your pin. You also get assessed a bank fee if you take money out of your account at a store cash register, depending on which bank you are with.
I use mine using the "Credit" option and the money comes right out of my checking account and posts the next day. So much for that not being considered a "withdrawal."
You can also use them to make online purchases the same as you would a credit card, but that IMO is incredibly STUPID because you are opening your bank account up for anyone who happens to hack your card number. And your bank is not going to flag your account on suspicion of hacking. Discover Card, OTOH, flagged my account back in January because my card DID get hacked, and two transactions were put on it that looked suspicious due to my previous activity. They reversed the charges and issued me new cards with a new account number.
Former bank teller/head teller here. Debit cards absolutely ARE the same as an ATM card; in fact, they ARE an ATM card. My bank gives out ATM/Debit cards, and has since 2001 (and now are issuing the new chipped cards to replace the old-fashioned card). Mine says DEBIT on the front, and has a Mastercard logo, card number and expiration date on the front, and a security code on the back.
You can use it as an ATM card to make withdrawals from an ATM by swiping and entering your pin. Or you can swipe it at any store that accepts credit cards and either select "credit," in which case the amount of the purchase simply comes out of your checking or whatever bank account is linked to it, or you can select "Debit" if you want to get money back, in which case you have to punch in your pin. You also get assessed a bank fee if you take money out of your account at a store cash register, depending on which bank you are with.
I use mine using the "Credit" option and the money comes right out of my checking account and posts the next day. So much for that not being considered a "withdrawal."
You can also use them to make online purchases the same as you would a credit card, but that IMO is incredibly STUPID because you are opening your bank account up for anyone who happens to hack your card number. And your bank is not going to flag your account on suspicion of hacking. Discover Card, OTOH, flagged my account back in January because my card DID get hacked, and two transactions were put on it that looked suspicious due to my previous activity. They reversed the charges and issued me new cards with a new account number.