Visited my husband today

[judiz]

I drove to Massachusetts to see my husband today for the first time since he was admitted to the specialized hospital. I was nervous because he hasn't sounded good on the phone but I was pleasantly surprised. I was able to take him to Target to get pants and we stopped for pizza. He seems to be making slow progress but still has weeks and maybe months to go.

 

[maureenfarone]

It is good to hear that he is making progress, even though it is slow.

 

[rjblue]

It sounds like it was an encouraging visit for you.

 

[Buzz]

That is good news @judiz and hope his progress continues.

 

[GarrAargHrumph]

It sounds like he's in just the right environment; it seems to be helping.

 

[clairecloutier]

I'm glad your husband is doing better, @judiz.

 

[barbk]

I'm glad you were able to see him and that he's making some progress.

How are you doing?

 

[attyfan]

I'd like to know how you are doing, also. For some reason, slow progress as always struck me as more real and long lasting than rapid progress.

 

[Spun Silver]

I'm glad the new facility is working out. Hope the respite has been allowing you to recover from your ordeal.

 

[BittyBug]

That sounds very encouraging, @judiz. I'm sure it must be frustrating to not have a a more concrete timeline for his recovery, but sometimes it take a lot small steps to be able to make a big leap.

 

[Kecasyl]

I am happy to hear it is working out for him and he's making encouraging progress. I am also glad to hear that you were able to visit with him, thank you for keeping us up to date.

 

[Japanfan]

Getting him to Target to buy pants is an accomplishment, Judith. Big box stores like that can be overwhelming and distressing to people with high anxiety.

Hang in there, be patient if you can. Slow progress is progress nonetheless. I agree with attyfan that slow progress is often more real.

 

[SmallFairy]

I'm so glad to hear that your husband doing a little better! Slow progress is fine, it is progress. All the best to both of you!

 

[skatesindreams]

I'd like to know how you are doing, also. For some reason, slow progress as always struck me as more real and long lasting than rapid progress.

This is my thinking, as well.
I would like to know how you are doing, also.

 

[Matryeshka]

I hope you're doing well judiz, and I'd like to add something else. When my father got really awful and my mother could no longer put off putting him into a nursing home as he was becoming a danger not just to himself but to her as well, the real guilt set in a few weeks later. Not because of putting him in the home--we really had NO option--but because SHE was enjoying herself and had a lot more freedom. My mother had pretty much been housebound for over a year and she felt horrible going out and was so hard on herself for having the slightest bit of fun.

I know this is easier said than done, but you deserve a good life too. You're doing all you can to help your husband, now it's your husband's turn to help himself. Be healthy, go out, and do things FOR YOU secure in the knowledge that you have gone above and beyond what many spouses would have done.

 

[judiz]

Thank you all for your good wishes and concern. I am doing as well as can be expected. I have been spending weekends with my mom who accompanied me to Boston.

My therapist has left the agency so I am currently between therapists but I have friends and family to lean on.

 

[quartz]

Do you feel your burden is finally lifting somewhat? That you have a little breathing room for yourself?
I so admire your strength, perseverance, and commitment in this ordeal. I sincerely hope you can take little respites to replenish yourself, physically and emotionally.

 

[judiz]

Do you feel your burden is finally lifting somewhat? That you have a little breathing room for yourself?
I so admire your strength, perseverance, and commitment in this ordeal. I sincerely hope you can take little respites to replenish yourself, physically and emotionally.

I really can't answer yes or no, sometimes I feel okay and other days I just want to punch the walls.

 

[quartz]

Could you punch something softer instead?

 

[Aussie Willy]

Glad to hear that things look better for you and your husband.

 

[AxelAnnie]

Thanks for the update. . It must have been hard and scary to go visit. And shoot.... I cant go to Target without a mini panic attack!

Wising you the best. You afe in my prayers.