IceAlisa
discriminating and persnickety ballet aficionado
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Yours is a very different read from mine. Where did you see that he is skating because he feels obligated? I haven't read anything that indicates Nathan doesn't want to be skating and is skating only for his family. It's different from dedicating a season to his family and letting them call the shots. He is an 18 year old kid who was affected by being at his first Olympics, I don't see it as his own fault but as a fault of his family who decided for him instead of listening to Raf. And I can cite so many examples when parental decisions hurt their skater kids. As to the rest, Raf is telling the truth until proven otherwise.No, I have. What I find baffling is the way this was presented to Raf. From Raf: "First of all his family. Chen announced before the Olympics he will be doing this season all that his family will decide. He told me that flat and square. Explained how much he owes his family for all they have done for him. Hence he decided to dedicate the Olympic season to his family and follow every wish of his beloved ones. We'll see next season whether he'll change his mind. Then we'll decide how to continue working."
It sounds like he feels such a deep sense of indebtedness to his family that to pay them back he felt he had to let them decide his life this season. If all this is what he really said it's way more extreme than just having an overbearing mom calling shots - it sounds very unhealthy to me if that's how he's viewing his career. He can't be in this because he feels obligated to his family.