why can you not understand i am not defending him ..... all sides are at fault for all different reasons and evidently no one in her family wanted to report it and the girl did not want to talk to the police.
First off, I am a retired law clerk who has worked with child protection services so I am very familar with laws around reporting and dealing with child sexual abuse, and trained to work with sexually abused children. So cut the holier than thou crap.
The ones who are at fault here are the people to whom the abuse was reported, and who did nothing: Cipres, the coaches and the rink officials. Most jurisdictions have laws against people failing to report child abuse if they so much as suspect it's happening. This is the part that makes Zimmerman, Fontana and the rink owner legally liable here. They were told and they did NOTHING.
No parent ever wants to go to the police. We don't want our children subjected to the trauma of the police interviews, the court proceedings and all of the trappings. Years, months of questioning, court appearances, and talking about this over and over. We don't want other people find out it happened. We just want our daughters to be safe. Blaming the parents or the child for not doing enough or not doing the right things, is legal, morally and just humanly wrong.
You need to learn about the law, and the psychology of child sexual abuse and how people like you are far too willing to see "both sides", always to give the abuser an out, an excuse, a rationalization that he really didn't harm the child. The first thing you said was "He didn't rape her". It was no big deal. It wasn't raped. She wasn't harmed. Isn't that what you said. Then it progresses to well she's mature for a 13 year old, and she was flirting with him. The "Lolita" defence, and you hinted at that. And then ultimatley you'll be posting that she lead him on and it's really not his fault at all, it was all her.
I remember the Bob Young mess when he was accused by a skater of sexual abuse. Many of parents at the rinks said this girl was a slut who was more a willing participant They knew and saw what was going. They testified in his defense. A couple of years later, two of the parents who testified on his behalf and vilified this poor teenager, had Bob Young arrested for sexually abusing their underage daughters.
This is how predators survive for so long. People are always ready to blame the little girl victims and let their abusers off the hook
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