dramagrrl
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I just personally feel that given the fact that he has told the press that he basically made the decision right after the Olympics, not saying anything to Julianne was inconsiderate. If he had told her what he was thinking, it would then be up to her to decide to continue to train ("on probation", per se), knowing that he might still decide it wasn't working. She could have thought about what he was saying and decided not to continue to invest significant amounts of money, time, effort, and hope into their preparations for this season. She might have decided to immediately take a longer rest to recuperate from her health issues and then may have been able to get back to full training and searching for a new partner sooner. The fact that he was essentially considering her "on probation" for several months, but didn't say anything means that Julianne then continued putting time and money into training, paying for choreography, music cuts and costumes (at least partially, because she said their costumes were being designed and fitted when he announced his decision), all of which ended up being wasted.If you split due to interpersonal issues, I can see how talking to your partner about it might be helpful to try and work it out, but if the issue is about how she's about to train due to concussions, I'm not sure how helpful talking about that before you're made up your mind would be. What do you say? It's not like there's really anything she can do to fix it, unlike other partnership issues, and you wouldn't want her to push in training to prove that she's fine if it could be unsafe.
Telling her this was a concern and you weren't sure about continuing to skate together would have meant she wasn't surprised when he made the decision, but could they really move forward in training when it's out there that he feels that way? I can see why you would only say something when you'd decided for sure what to do (especially when your coach is really attached to your partner and might disagree with your decision)
I understand your point that he felt that he wouldn't really be able to see how training was going if the "are we going to end up staying together or not?" factor was hovering over them, but given how much time and money went into figuring that out, my opinion is that not saying anything and thereby not allowing her to be part of a decision that was going to drastically affect her life was a selfish decision. (There is also the fact that they were assigned to two GP events before they split, which may have caused complications and potential lost opportunities for other pairs.)