Kaitlin Hawayek posted this vid on IG.
I would really, really encourage everyone to watch this. Other skaters have obviously spoken up about this issue in the past, but I found Kaitlin’s story and her message here really powerful.
Kaitlin Hawayek posted this vid on IG.
Pretty sure it was the same spectator that made some comments to me about my body while asking for a photo. It threw me off because I believe it was meant as “ compliments” instead it was toxic , triggering , and made me super uncomfortable.
Point is stuff like this contributes to why eating disorders are so common in this sport.
What gets me is the entitlement that some fans have as if the skaters should be grateful to hear their (largely uneducated) opinion.I have no idea who the fan was, where they came from, how long they've followed the sport, or what age group they fall into, but we unfortunately see roundabout comments pertaining to the topic even on FSU.
I thought the same thing when she said that. And she still managed to take the photo with this jerk.I cannot believe that "fan" had the utter gall to go up to an athlete, request a photo with her, and then give her this supposed "advice" while doing so. That is just beyond gross.
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There were a number of posts during SA about how unflattering Kaitlyn's dress was in the RD. ….
Me too. And I know that I was a little weight-obsessed when I was younger: I was never really overweight but lost the same 5-10 vanity pounds over and over.^^ I’m definitely doing a little self-reflection WRT this.
Costumes can be improved. Nothing wrong if one has a useful non-snarky comment, especially early in the season. In K/J-L’s RD, I was thinking about color combinations…I’d love to see him wear colored ruffled sleeves. Or maybe the idea is to keep them separate?
You just contradicted yourself. How was it refreshing how Kaori looked if looks don't matter? Did you say the same thing when Scherbakova won with a very different body type? I agree that it shouldn't matter, but so many have praised Sakamoto based on her looks so apparently it does matter depending on the fans aesthetics. Personally, I'd be fine if all female single and pairs skaters wore black body suits as they really show off their lines. I also have no issue with men wearing all black for the same reason. Then the emphasis is on how well they execute the elements. Dancers, I have no opinion one way or the other since I'm not a big dance fan. Plus, black body suits would save a lot of $$$$$ for skaters.Figure skating fandom is toxic. There, I said it. So much of the talk centers on costumes and hair and body shapes and who is or isn't considered physically attractive enough for the sport. I'm not at all surprised someone felt comfortable saying what they did, considering how fans tend to talk. Kaitlin, and Amber, don't need this 'advice'. They're doing just fine with their skating.
There's room for all body types; a tall guy doesn't need to only skate pairs, curvy girls should be welcome and slim ones shouldn't be automatically presumed to have EDs, etc. Costumes shouldn't have the importance they do - not everyone has designers creating for them. It's not about what athletes look like, it's whether can they do the required elements. Or, that's how it should be in a sport.
On a more positive note, it was refreshing when Kaori took the ice at Slake America looking like a young woman and not an extra slim teenager. There she was, the reigning world champion of a sport, not a beauty queen or a model or a little girl.
Since the problem is EDs and emphasis on thinness, Kaori’s athletic body does break the stereotype and is thus worth noting. Meanwhile there have been countless interviews by current and former Eteri skaters about the insane regimen for staying thin, including worrying about a 200 gram weight gain. Scher herself may be naturally thin and healthy but she has trained in a terrible environment her entire life, so yes concern is not misplaced.You just contradicted yourself. How was it refreshing how Kaori looked if looks don't matter? Did you say the same thing when Scherbakova won with a very different body type? I agree that it shouldn't matter, but so many have praised Sakamoto based on her looks so apparently it does matter depending on the fans aesthetics. Personally, I'd be fine if all female single and pairs skaters wore black body suits as they really show off their lines. I also have no issue with men wearing all black for the same reason. Then the emphasis is on how well they execute the elements. Dancers, I have no opinion one way or the other since I'm not a big dance fan. Plus, black body suits would save a lot of $$$$$ for skaters.
There are many, many people with eating disorders who are not stick thin.Since the problem is EDs and emphasis on thinness, Kaori’s athletic body does break the stereotype and is thus worth noting.
But the reported emphasis in the Tutberidze camp is actually not about appearance. It is about maintaining a body type capable of quads. The sport itself and what people consider to be "progress" in the sport pressures skaters to have a certain body type quite separately from the society's pressure for an ideal body appearance.Since the problem is EDs and emphasis on thinness, Kaori’s athletic body does break the stereotype and is thus worth noting. Meanwhile there have been countless interviews by current and former Eteri skaters about the insane regimen for staying thin, including worrying about a 200 gram weight gain. Scher herself may be naturally thin and healthy but she has trained in a terrible environment her entire life, so yes concern is not misplaced.
Figure skating fandom is toxic. There, I said it. So much of the talk centers on costumes and hair and body shapes and who is or isn't considered physically attractive enough for the sport. I'm not at all surprised someone felt comfortable saying what they did, considering how fans tend to talk. Kaitlin, and Amber, don't need this 'advice'. They're doing just fine with their skating.
I need to remind myself not to comment on looks at all, I commented on a male skater’s hair in the PBP thread and I have no idea if this skater has some medical condition that makes it that way. I would never say that to his face so probably shouldn’t say it anywhere.
And, good or bad, that's a part of most sports. Certain body types lend themselves to certain sports. My cousin was into body building competition for a number of years. There is a certain physical requirement for this. On one hand she looked very fit, but was it healthy? I didn't think so, but she did. She tired of it after a few years because it was extremely difficult to maintain the physical appearance necessary to compete. Distance runners have hardly any body fat. They are all muscle. Football linemen are big and running backs are smaller and fast. And, people will walk up to total strangers and comment on their appearance. I've seen people comment on a child's appearance more than once. In front of the child.But the reported emphasis in the Tutberidze camp is actually not about appearance. It is about maintaining a body type capable of quads. The sport itself and what people consider to be "progress" in the sport pressures skaters to have a certain body type quite separately from the society's pressure for an ideal body appearance.
I can easily imagine whoever said it was affiliated with SCOB
Indeed.We should all try not to make assumptions about a person
I don’t disagree with you here at all, and that’s one reason it’s generally a good thing for elite skaters to be very careful with how they engage with fan communities online. And with that said, the fans still need to do better. Even if skaters completely avoid all online fan discourse (which, obviously, they don’t), there are a lot of young people - both skaters and otherwise - who participate in the fan communities, and this is not just a skating issue. I was never an elite skater, but I have been in and around
the online fan community since I was about 14 years old. Some of the toxic cultural aspects of skating impact more than just the skaters.
So with all that said - I did see a mention elsewhere that the gala practice was closed to the public. If that is true, whoever was involved in this situation might be more well-connected within the sport than the average fan. This is a fan issue, but not just a fan issue - I can easily imagine whoever said it was affiliated with SCOB, for example. I’m from New England; I’ve known plenty of older ladies who would have been capable of making that comment.
I have thin hair because of genetics and whatever else, I’m self-conscious about it, and you wouldn’t believe how often well-meaning strangers do comment on it to my face. Generally involves some combination of asking me whether I’ve been tested for whatever medical condition they associate with thin hair, and recommending whatever shampoo their best friend is selling from the latest MLM fad. Used to happen on the regular when I had a customer-facing job, so I had to just nod politely until they were done.
Anyway, I think that’s part of why I appreciated the framing of Kaitlin’s message. IMO it resonates beyond just comments about weight, and beyond skating or even sports in general. We should all try not to make assumptions about a person - their health, their choices, their lifestyle, whatever - based on our perceptions of their physical appearance. And to whatever extent our brains are going to do those things anyway, based on societal conditioning, maybe the best we can do is reflect on those thoughts instead of sharing them with other people.