VGThuy
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I don’t think Eric did anything remotely wrong. Why in heck would he tell his current partner until he was sure it would work out with Meghan.
All it would do is hurt and confuse his partner(before Meghan) and raise issues that would naturally be addressed once a decision was actually made.
This is an elite sport and to get to the top you have to make difficult choices.
It’s not really right IMO to compare this kind of process and decision making with the normal every day things people go through in their lives, like changing jobs( that is going on job interviews before you tell your current boss, you quit), or even leaving a relationship.
Partners in skating are a relationship but not in the same way as a marriage or romantic partnership. A part of it is business.
Really what good would it do telling her beforehand. It would hurt either way.
Best to make sure you have a clear decision to make a clean break rather then make her feel like sloppy seconds.
But in the end, from what he wrote in his book from as honey described it, it seemed that he pretty much characterized her as "sloppy seconds". The fact he was even trying out anyway showed he was considering a change. I also think if we're going to compare it to a business, then you should provide people who are dependent on you in a partnership notice that you that you received an opportunity to try out with someone else so they are put on notice that they should rethink their choices as well.
Like I said, it was his career and he had to look out for no. 1. Telling her ahead of time rather than keeping her in the dark in case it didn't work out and pretending he never sought another partner in Duhamel may have resulted in the things you described, and it would have been right for all of that to happen. It's pretty clear for that partner's sake, he wasn't to be trusted. Maybe he had reasons, but for her, he wasn't going to be the loyal partner.
On the other hand, because there was a danger of that happening, he was "smart" for himself to not tell her. However, it still doesn't make what he did great or admirable and I would still use the words I would use. If not cowardly then it was pretty cunning and inconsiderate for his partner. Not saying it wasn't justifiable or at least understandable, and like I said it really worked out for him, but he had to do something pretty underhanded to get what he wanted in the way he wanted. He was a shark at that moment. I guess that's admirable in a way because people do what they need to do to get ahead, but sharks are called that because they devour people who outlive their usefulness to get what they want. It's complex and interesting, but not 100% positive.
As for Charlie, as long as he told her and the coach before hand, I’m not sure what he did was all that reproachable either.
Lubov chose to leave Cirque. She
wanted another kick at the can and she got it. And unfortunately they failed to achieve the results they were looking for as a team. And quite frankly her jump issues were a big problem from before and continued.
It’s very clear from Charlie’s statement that he was in a massive state of confusion and uncertainty for a few years.
You can’t expect someone who was going through that to make clear choices.
You're right. Charlie clearly cannot make clear choices. Can't wait to see another carefully orchestrated press release about him "sliding" into another choice. Getting out long orchestrated PR statements ahead-of-time seems to be the clearest choice he's able to make.
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