I feel like those of us in fields like ballet or gymnastics who were indoctrinated into the culture of abuse from a very young age simply became de-sensitized to it. We were fed and ate the lines that it was all tough love and we had to be knocked down to build ourselves up and not everybody was cut out for this so you had to be the toughest while also being the thinnest, etc. A lot of us bought into it; if we survived it, we were the best of the best. It was a badge of honor, not shame. Was it right? NO! Does it mean it should continue? NO! If you don't wake up to the fact that it was abusive, you can perpetuate it if you are now a coach, teacher, parent. This is time to wake up, easier said than done though -- look at all the successful gymnasts who needed time to realize that Nassar's physical abuse was not medical treatment; many have spoken on how hard it was. No one wants to realize they were a victim. Whether physical or verbal abuse, it messes with perceptions.