Scrufflet
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So glad you brought this to our attention. This article is excellent.This just came across my Facebook feed. Sexual misconduct is on a spectrum with a very large range of activities including the killing of women by their intimate partners. The following quote from the article has some relevance to our discussion here:
“...In media coverage of domestic violence, in social media conversations about intimate partner violence, and when we as individuals try to think through why tragedies like the Nov. 24 Schladetzky familicide in Minneapolis occur, the focus too frequently turns to what part the victim played in attracting violence. Our conversations rarely ask why men abuse women.
In an attempt to be helpful, we offer information about how women can leave abusive men or where the local shelters are located. But there are no messages for men about how to handle rage or cope nonviolently with life, and that absence is a telling one.
Socially and culturally, we hold women responsible for the violence that men do,...”
(The bold is mine.)
OPINION EXCHANGE | We are asking the wrong questions about domestic violence
Focus needs to shift from the victim to the abuser.m.startribune.com