Yuzuru Hanyu Divorced (updated)
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TAHbKA
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will repeat myself: Mazal tov!
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peibeck
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Power to the woman who will be able to cope with all his psycho ubers! 
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Matchmaking services that pair up people who want to get married and match each other's requirements re. age, expectations, preferences, jobs, etc. are somewhat common in Japan and other East Asian countries, as is the practice of setting up marriageable people on blind dates (omiai) based on external criteria. (Though these more traditional elements of Japanese dating culture do tend to be overrepresented in romantic dramas/soap operas compared to their prominence in modern life because they make for good plot devices.)
While I wouldn't say Japan's marital landscape is flourishing given their issues with low fertility, loneliness and gender-based discrimination, getting married for prosaic reasons like "duty" or even just "it's time" is not seen as a sinister omen portending inevitable divorce there as much as a slightly old-fashioned beginning to the long process of building a life together. It's not unheard of for both parties to approach marriage very practically on the understanding that they'll develop feelings for each other over time and it will take work.
It's not very romantic, but I do think this mindset has its advantages too; it acknowledges the serious commitment marriage represents/the perseverance it requires in order to work out in the long term, and it ensures people enter into matrimony without the unrealistic expectations and fantasies that sometimes make worse the inevitable growing pains in marriages that were agreed on for less practical reasons. But again, of course, there are obviously issues with treating marriage like a requirement too.
Anyway. All this is to say that based on how Hanyu has spoken in the past about his life plans (I'm referring to his comments about intending to get married and have children by a certain age, which always sounded pretty abstract to me), how busy and even obsessed he's been with his career for years, and how soon this announcement came after his retirement, well, I kinda assume he decided it was time to get married after retiring from competition, went to a matchmaking agency or asked someone to introduce him to an appropriate candidate, met a woman who ticked all the boxes, and quickly locked it down. I think that sounds more like him than conducting a regular relationship away from the limelight for years and finally marrying his devoted partner now.
This is just my speculation, of course. But whatever the case may be, I wish him and his wife all the best.
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On My Own
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this @ this thread and also the royalty thread
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Low expectations and a strong sense of commitment can increase the chances of happiness 
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anyways happy for Hanyu, kinda annoyed with all the speculation on twitter regarding who he's marrying. there seem to be a lot of fans who are aggressively suggesting he didn't marry a woman. ugh.
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MacMadame
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There's nothing wrong with that if he didn't marry a woman. OTOH, it's been pointed out that same-sex marriage isn't legal in Japan so if he's registered his marriage, it's got to be to a woman. Unless I'm missing something.
Also, if he is registering his marriage, we'll know who he married soon enough so I don't see the point in speculating. Again, unless I'm missing something. Besides the fact that people love to speculate, ofc.
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Was the "ugh" really necessary?
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I think the ugh was directed at the aggressive speculation.
I don’t care who any consenting adult dates. No one is questioning if he is married to a woman.
Johnny Weir’s recent set of online pictures of his final professional performance showed a very tearful YH resting his head on JW’s shoulder. YH very giddily, affectionately & tightly hugging JW’s neck. The body language between them naturally leads people to believe this is more than professional respect between the two.
Johnny Weir’s recent set of online pictures of his final professional performance showed a very tearful YH resting his head on JW’s shoulder. YH very giddily, affectionately & tightly hugging JW’s neck. The body language between them naturally leads people to believe this is more than professional respect between the two.
A lot of people are, actually.
Side note- some of those Twitter posts are... crazy. Some people really, really do not know anything about the real world.
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Ok but this is inherently a problem. The idea that 2 men can't be emotional with each other unless they are romantically in love is bad. This is true not just of men, but just any 2 humans. People can be close without any sort of romantic element, and honestly the world would be better off if more people realized this.
Side note it took me a hot minute to figure out who YH was in this hahaha. I was scratching my head for a bit.
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Who's gonna link the fanfics
Karen-W
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Shouldn't those go in the Trash Can's Fanyu thread?
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listen I am a tag wrangler on ao3 and not for figure skating rpf but I did get a crossover tag once with tony stark and Johnny Weir which was an experience (I did not read the fic so I cannot give any details)
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I really didn't want to think of the fanfics.
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I didn't know this was a job lol
OTT Fanyus gonna, uh, Fanyu.
Rukia
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lol it's volunteer like everything on that site we just really love keeping things organized ok
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For something as chaotic as fanfic, seems like it would be more in line to let it be disorganized and chaotic
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Ananas Astra
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I once was bored and started reading one about him, Javi and Daisuke Takahashi...
Let's just say it explained his love for Pooh and that Javi is a cheater.
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Perhaps he married Pooh, who has been at rinkside to support him and give him Kleenex through all of the ups and downs of his career.
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If he married Pooh then we would know who wore the pants in that marriage. 
Now that's funny, i was criticizing people who fetishize homosexuality, but my post got deleted for being "homophobic".... This says more about you than me ?
And Fanyus who are not able to understand that Yuzuru has a wife and even calling her a "beard" or dictating how a perfect wife has to be ( like on that other forum) should be branded as misogynistic
And Fanyus who are not able to understand that Yuzuru has a wife and even calling her a "beard" or dictating how a perfect wife has to be ( like on that other forum) should be branded as misogynistic
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wow this thread could have been relatively normal and yet
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