RockTheTassel
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I know, right? I mean, if you aren't involved with anyone in your 20s, what the heck are you doing? I can't believe they are just on their cellphones/computers all day. How depressing.
I'm twenty-seven and can attest to how common it is for people my age to not be in romantic and/or sexual relationships. Some of it is being distracted by phones or computers. But beyond that, it feels like no one wants to make the effort. And even if someone does, it's often not reciprocated -- there's a reason why "ghosting" is now a known term among my generation. It feels like it should be easier -- smart phones, dating apps, ect. all connect us with people instantly. But many often get complacent with or even overwhelmed by all of the options and possibilities. Perhaps some from other generations can correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems that prior to all the technology, people had to make solid plans and reach out. They had to call because there wasn't texting. They had to meet that person when and where they said they would because they couldn't easily let them know about a last minute cancellation. Also, they were generally limited to people in their area, which may have helped. More choices = more stress and competition.
I also agree that money and being busy with schooling or jobs likely has an impact. Personally, I'd like to be in a relationship. But I'm currently trying to finish my degree, working, volunteering, applying for internships (which will be full-time and unpaid), and managing chronic health issues. If I can get enough sleep, eat decently, tend to all of my obligations, and occasionally hang out with or at least talk to friends/family, then it's been a really successful week. I don't have the time or the energy for a relationship, even a casual one.