Susan1
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Hi. Since you guys are "strangers" - remember the cousin's daughter who had the baby a year and a half ago? And how I mentioned how "unconventional" they are...............
Cousin's daughter (CS) has signed up to be a surrogate IN CALIFORNIA. She lives in Ohio. I was being told all this in between being called back to have various tortures done to me at the retina specialist every 10 minutes, so I'm waaaaaaaay beyond confused and WTF.
She has to fly out there for tests and exams - missing time from a job she just started a year ago and leaving her kid here with the grandmother. She will have the baby here, if it takes the first time, and the new parents will come here to get "it" and take it back to California. So, again, I say WTF????? There are surrogacy programs in Ohio. Why CA? She doesn't know anybody there. She gets reimbursed for everything and gets paid a couple hundred dollars at each stage. She filled out a 17 page application and had to send all her medical/pregnancy records and pictures (no chance for anything nefarious there, huh?) to them. After the insemination, she has to stay OUT THERE "with her legs up" for however long.
They are in the middle of completely redoing their unfinished basement so that she and PT can live down there (of which cousin cannot even go up and down the steps). CS's grandmother (my aunt) is livid. The older lady next door who has been like a grandmother to her for 24 some years is livid. My cousin says "whatever she wants to do is fine" (an ongoing theme for 24 some years). All the stuff my cousin is going to have to go through and help with, and it's not even her grandchild.
OMG. What if something goes wrong with the pregnancy or the baby or they decide they don't want it. How many Lifetime movies about surrogacy gone wrong have there been? The rules are you have to have had one kid and kept it yourself. Why, so you don't want to keep this one? Couldn't the people in CA have found someone out there? Letting some stranger three hours away have a baby for you? This is SO weird. Comments? (Besides "what a wonderful thing to do for someone". Yeah, if they lived in Ohio or you knew someone who could not carry a child. Etc.) Cousin said it's going to cost these people ~$70K (California, ya know)! Sheesh.
p.s. I'm finally starting to be able to see again (6 hours). They dilated both eyes this time. All good for 6 more months.
Cousin's daughter (CS) has signed up to be a surrogate IN CALIFORNIA. She lives in Ohio. I was being told all this in between being called back to have various tortures done to me at the retina specialist every 10 minutes, so I'm waaaaaaaay beyond confused and WTF.
She has to fly out there for tests and exams - missing time from a job she just started a year ago and leaving her kid here with the grandmother. She will have the baby here, if it takes the first time, and the new parents will come here to get "it" and take it back to California. So, again, I say WTF????? There are surrogacy programs in Ohio. Why CA? She doesn't know anybody there. She gets reimbursed for everything and gets paid a couple hundred dollars at each stage. She filled out a 17 page application and had to send all her medical/pregnancy records and pictures (no chance for anything nefarious there, huh?) to them. After the insemination, she has to stay OUT THERE "with her legs up" for however long.
They are in the middle of completely redoing their unfinished basement so that she and PT can live down there (of which cousin cannot even go up and down the steps). CS's grandmother (my aunt) is livid. The older lady next door who has been like a grandmother to her for 24 some years is livid. My cousin says "whatever she wants to do is fine" (an ongoing theme for 24 some years). All the stuff my cousin is going to have to go through and help with, and it's not even her grandchild.
OMG. What if something goes wrong with the pregnancy or the baby or they decide they don't want it. How many Lifetime movies about surrogacy gone wrong have there been? The rules are you have to have had one kid and kept it yourself. Why, so you don't want to keep this one? Couldn't the people in CA have found someone out there? Letting some stranger three hours away have a baby for you? This is SO weird. Comments? (Besides "what a wonderful thing to do for someone". Yeah, if they lived in Ohio or you knew someone who could not carry a child. Etc.) Cousin said it's going to cost these people ~$70K (California, ya know)! Sheesh.
p.s. I'm finally starting to be able to see again (6 hours). They dilated both eyes this time. All good for 6 more months.