So i've debated whether or not to get into this debate, but after some consideration do have a few thoughts to add. First, when my kid was little she skated to big spender in an exhibition - combined with boogy woogy bugle boy i think. Would never have occured to me or anyone else that it was 'gross'. It's fun, boppy music. I absolutely don't see Trusova's program as being 'sexualised'. She's a little kid dressing up. I think they chose the music because it's easy for a 13 year old to show some choreography, and especially as Trusova is not super right now in the PCS department other than skating skills (and i love her), compared to say Kostornaia and it hides that fact pretty well. I think Eteri's camp actually do a good job picking music for their skaters. Consider Zagitova. Also not very musical, and pretty weak in the PCS department (including the skating skills). The music works because she doesn't really have to show any feeling for it. She raises her arms on music cues and jumps on music cues. It works and it hides her weaknesses. i personally think if she stays in the game, she's going to struggle next year unless they find a similar way to hide her pcs shortcomings.
Second, unless someone on this board actually knows Eteri, i think the accusations have gone over the line into borderline slander. And...there is always, always another side to every story. Julia. I loved her. thought she was amazing. Could see right away as a parent, that she wasn't an easy kid. Too indulged, some unspectacular ways of communicating in public. i get she's shy, but rudeness isn't on in my opinion. One or two of my kids are shy but if they'd had some of the attitude that Julia occsionally put out in public forum they'd be doing kitty litter cleanout for 2 months. I think no one owns the eating disorder issue. Eating disorders are rampant in these types of sports. i have a number of friends with girls who have had/have this issue and they are great parents with no 'mean coach/abusive coach' issues. Sometimes it just happens and no one knows why.
Third, not too many years ago on this board, when both Julia and Serafima were still there, there was some sort of documentary done on Eteri and her group. Everyone on this board was like 'wow, such a supportive atmosphere.. I'd love to be a skater there..'. My how times change. Then on the topic of Serafima, there was all the speculation as to why she left. 'She and Janny were competing for attention and she lost out', Eteri had no patience for her once she matured - she only wants the skinny waifs..Etc. A few years later, the reality is that they didn't have the money/ financials to stay and neither party wanted that split. As an aside, Tsurskaya has matured physically a lot, had inuries, struggled. Eteri has stuck with her and said publicly that while she knows it's hard for Polina with her injury issue, she'll be there for her as long as she wants to skate.
Finally, Eteri is a mom. So she's a hard a** on the ice - the reality is that she has to do that at times because it's her job. As a flip side to her personality, I've seen some videos of her interviewed about her family and daughter, and she's gotten quite teared up and emotional about the difficulties Diana has faced with her hearing issues. So she clearly has a heart.
So... after saying all that, i don't know if Eteri is good, evil, or none of the above but i think lots of folks here are not being objective and putting some veils of their own making over some things that may not be the way they seem. Soap box over.