... I don’t think I am a racist person. I appears to me that you feel the need to jump all over every perceived slight that is anywhere close to Meghan. It does make discussions really difficult. Meghan, like the rest of us, is not perfect. She has her moments of self doubt, her moments of selfishness, her moments of cattiness- as I am sure does Kate and the rest of the world. She has made clothing choices I love and clothing choices I think are terrible. None of that is a reflection of who she is as a person. And, of course, none of us know who she really is. It is all just speculation.
Oh boy. Why are you leading with that utterance? I never claimed that of you.

The fact you feel the need to go there is on you.
It is definitely true IMO that a lot of the negative attitudes toward Meghan have to do with subtle and/or unconscious biases related to Meghan's background (ethnic heritage mostly, and for some the fact she's American and divorced). But I didn't say that about you. You are bringing it up on your own. There's been plenty of commentary regarding the level of online negativity directed against Meghan. Here are just two of many commentaries:
Trolls on social media have accused her of everything from "marrying up" to using her platform to advance her own personal interests.
www.cheatsheet.com
There is a growing sense in much of the UK media that the princess is not ‘one of us’
www.theguardian.com
To say that I 'jump all over every perceived slight' is an exaggeration. If you look at what I highlighted that you said, it's really more than a bit OTT on your part. I don't see the need to constantly look at Kate and Meghan in opposing and competing ways, especially not regarding any issues surrounding Meghan's wedding! Still, there tends to be this 'competitive' tendency when speaking about either of them that's out there in the media and in a lot of people's heads. From the beginning, I never anticipated this level of Kate & Meghan being positioned against each other. It all seems to be pretty knee-jerk and automatic at this point in some quarters of the media, and not helped at all by questionable and suspicious leaks from the palace last year as soon as Meghan and Harry returned from their successful South Pacific tour. And it hasn't abated much, not even since royal reporters identified a slight 'rift' between Harry & William as the major issue in the couples' evolving interactions.
We don't perceive things in the same way on this and some other issues as well that have to do with skating. So it is what it is. Instead of actually reflecting on what I said about your comments, you are defending yourself by talking about clothing choices, and running the same narrative that Meghan isn't perfect, when no one has ever said she's perfect. All of the royals are human, btw. Just because I have complimentary things to say about Meghan does not mean Meghan is perfect. That seems to be the go-to shuffle though, and so yes, it is difficult to find any common ground with you on this topic.
I certainly was not taking issue with general criticisms of Meghan's sartorial choices. I don't particularly care for some of Meghan's darker monochrome color palette choices either. But I have to admit she generally makes choices that work for her, and she carries things off well. I definitely do not love everything she has worn, and I haven't hesitated to say so. Once again, beside the point in connection with the condescending tone of your recent comments. I get that you don't feel you are being condescending. It is what it is.
Your rationalization in your post regarding what you imagine I feel about Meghan, I guess is your way of trying to show you didn't mean anything by your earlier statements, and that's fine. But suggesting that I'm reading things into your comments appears to be a deflection. But so be it. I think what you said earlier regarding Meghan needing to look back and regret when her wedding was scheduled (simply because Kate gave birth 3 weeks earlier and Zara was heavily pregnant) is really OTT and off-base. That is exactly what you said. No twisting needed on my part.
I'll leave you with some Mark Twain wisdom, which I really must try to follow and live up to myself.
We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.
Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear, and the blind can see.
Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.
Never argue with a fool. Onlookers may not be able to tell the difference.
When you find yourself on the side of the majority, you should pause and reflect.
Never argue with stupid people, they will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience. 
The common eye sees only the outside of things, and judges by that, but the seeing eye pierces through and reads the heart and the soul...