Keeping Track of Criminal Cases & SafeSport Suspensions in Skating

[Spikefan]

I think it also depends on if they served time, apologized, changed their life. Also the crime. I find rape right up there with murder as I know someone who eventually lost her life after her rape. Her rapist continues to live a wonderful life as all “his” people believed him, there was no conviction. Even if the survivor lives, the old them is dead.

 

[Theatregirl1122]

I definitely wouldn't necessarily drop any friend convicted of any crime. It depends on the circumstances, what the crime was, and their reaction. Altogether, what do those things say about them as a person and do they make them a person I don't want in my life.

That being said, a rapist is a person I don't want in my life, full stop.

 

[kedrin]

I've had to dump someone for criminal behaviour, but so did all of my extended friend group, so that was a heck of a lot easier. After it all went down, I realized how we were all manipulated and charmed by said person (in very different ways).

I've been really quiet in these threads for this reason, because I had to dump a friend who raped someone, and also had to deal with the fall out as this happened in the context of an organization, so watching how MIA has handled this cuts really close. In the case of the organization I'm involved with, the man was banned immediately, and since I post under my real name, I don't want to say too much, other than, yes, it sucks when a friend is accused, but not nearly as much as it sucks for the woman accusing. There are still people who don't believe her, but we also heard a lot of stories about the guy that ended with: 'but I didn't know who to tell' (we've worked as an organization to change that).

 

[Vagabond]

I am a survivor of sexual abuse at the hands (literally) of my brothers. One of them is a pedophile and has apparently abused at least three other children. I learned a lot as I went through therapy and healing, including that friends, family, and even victims vary greatly on the degree to which they will overlook or forgive heinous acts. While I will never forgive my brothers, I do accept that others, particularly their friends, will overlook what they did. What I will not accept, however, is anyone's attempt to tell me that my brothers did not molest me, that I should forgive them, that I have no right to my feelings, or that I am in any way responsible for what they did to me.

 

[Debbie S]

(((Vagabond)))

 

[TanithandBenFan]

C/B’s wedding gets the most attention, but Nik was also at Kirsten Moore-Towers’ wedding last June and photographed with a number of current and former skaters.

 

[overedge]

Why shouldn't someone say they are friends with Guillaume and Laurence? Guillaume and Laurence haven't been accused of or banned for wrongdoing.

Because the main reason that Laurence is available to skate with Guillaume is that Nik is banned.