Thank you for your civilized style. I want to make with you the kind of deal that we make with my own daughters on contentious issues: If you read my scribblings below with an open mind, I'll read a 20-page article of
your choice that may change
my mind on the subject.

Send me the link, please.
I know that the
gender self-identification doctrine is now being taught as if it were a fact. It is, however, it is only a doctrine that has become popular recently.
(Independently of the gender self-ID doctrine,
transgender people exist. They have strong and persistent gender dysphoria, which makes them feel in the body of the wrong sex.
They deserve equality, protection from discrimination and from hate crimes and medical support if they need it. This is independent of the discussion of the gender self-ID doctrine.)
According to the gender self-ID doctrine, biological sex doesn't exist/define a person. Only gender is important and gender is defined as an innate quality independent of biology. Somewhat like a soul.
There is, however,
no scientific evidence that people have an innate, immutable gender, independent from their biology.
OTOH the entire body of biology and medicine is proof that
biological sex is innate, immutable and the basis of evolution for humans as well as other mammals. It is also binary for more than 99.99% of humanity. The disorders and anomalies don't change the rule.
It's important for laws, rules and regulations safeguarding rights, health and safety to be based on science, and not on some inconsistent doctrine with no scientific basis.
Gender self-ID is homophobic. It refuses the existence of gay people. In the real world, gay and lesbian people are attracted to the same
sex. This doctrine OTOH tells them that they should be attracted to the same
gender. Or to be "pansexual". For instance, if a lesbian is not attracted to trans women presenting as men, she is called a transphobe, a fascist and a genital-fetishist. This is happening now.
Is this
really how attraction works?
As for the incredibly wide-spread gender dysphoria, how many of us would have thought we needed gender re-assignment, if we were on social media like the children and teenagers today? The "tomboy", the "girly boy", the "bossy girl", the boy who likes pink and looks at other boys. The teenager who feels miserable and uncomfortable in his/her body because of any number of reasons. The slightest sign of depression and therapists are so quick to put them into boxes. That could be any of us, just being human. Especially the future gay adults.
Transgender people exist. But not every gender non-conforming person is transgender.
The NHS's only children's gender transition clinic is currently running 'conversion therapy for gay kids' in a bid to persuade them that they are really trans, a gay psychologist who worked there has claimed.
And there have been other such claims.
In the most extreme case, Iran and Pakistan, BTW, have been quick to see the opportunity to erase male homosexuality. In Iran transsexuality is legal if you get the operation but homosexuality is punishable by death. Iran is number 1 in the world in sex change surgeries with 4000 operations a year,
presumably to eradicate gay people.

x1000
There's much more to say, especially about women's rights, this doctrine's conservatism and its dangers to children, but FSU is important to me and I want to remain.
This post is for FSU only. Please don't snitch on me to any scary trans activists.