A friend vagueposted on FB about there being 10+ years of Dance Moms and various child pageant shows with little fuss, but a Black woman creates a critique and all hell breaks loose. I committed the sin of going in without understanding the topic and pointed out that plenty of people have criticized Dance Moms etc. By his response I understood he was talking about Cuties, and the resulting uproar. I had previously seen the Netflix promos for Cuties and thought it looked terrible but didn't give it a 2nd thought, and had not head anything about the backlash. But not a single person in the thread had watched the film, so I decided to.
I agree with others who say that it is not an easy film. marbri has a pretty good breakdown about the plot. It's a film about coming of age with competing cultural pressures, it's about the very real need to fit in and the brutality of girl cliques, about the desperation that creates a willingness to do just about anything to prove you're "in". How lines that seem so clear and obvious to adults can be invisible to children trying to prove themselves. There is also a subtle but very real undercurrent of class throughout the movie.
There are a lot of identities within the main character I can never understand firsthand, but I thought it was one of the most honest and real depictions of that edge between girl and woman - the way these 11-year olds flip from childlike goofiness and older-teen posturing was amazing (not talking about the dance finale, but small scenes throughout). Some of the ways in which these girls flirted with what they thought was being "mature" based on media images, while not fully understanding all the implications, went hand in hand with things my friends and I said and did when we were 12. I AM SO GLAD that there were no cell phones, there was no internet, and there was no social media until I was an adult.
When I was a dancer, my company used to perform in an annual show of the hometown dance studio of one of our members (20 years ago). The rest of the performers were maybe 7 years old through high school. One year we watched the dress rehearsal, and a group of the older girls did a dance to some rock number that was just.....awful. Afterwards, someone said, "if I was one of their parents, I would feel so proud right now" (heavy sarcasm). These girls were mimicking a sexuality that they clearly had no understanding of and the result was just...squicky. The costumes were less revealing (skintight jeans and leotard tops, so less skin showing but just as shape-focused), and the moves weren't as extreme as the dance final in Cuties - but it really wasn't that far off.
I will say that Netflix completely botched the marketing of this film. The fact that they emphasized the dance competition, which is really a subplot, and that their promo shot was from the final performance, shows a complete misunderstanding of the film, and the target audience. Whoever approved that marketing campaign should be out of a job.