How do you explain this to your kids? How do you tell them to do their best today and they do and are told, sorry, it doesn't matter? I know you're trying to encourage your son to do figure skating rather than hockey, but if I were your 11 year old watching this, I'd stick with hockey. I don't envy the discussion I know you're having to have with your children. Hockey winners vs losers? Easy. Speed skating. Easy. Skiing? Easy. Especially, how do you explain how a skater who has beat another skater two years running at the national event and this time by 30 points and they were given a post season bowl game and the other got nothing.
I explain -- all the time -- that getting great grades in spring of junior year in high in two classes doesn't make up for crappy grades in the prior two years when it comes time for college admissions. Nor does a fabulous SAT score make up for poor grades. Better for kids to learn this sooner rather than later. Parents, too.