Ok hello all,
Since I have been a long time member of this site I feel entitled to finally start a thread after a long time. I really hope you guys can be helpful and I look forward to your perspectives and opinions. Which I really could use. So here goes.
Some time ago, I joined an online relationship site. No it's not what you think. I am not looking to date, flirt or chase men. But seriously it was more in line of penpal/friendship/intelligent interaction with the opposite gender to gain some clarity and perspective from what I am currently going through. A sort of respectful connection if you like. I thought I could find it elsewhere since my immediate circle is woefully inadequate for now. I am not exaggerating.
Anyway I chose one of the pricier sites for no longer than one month which was my duration. The site has the reputation of being for high-minded, 'classy' people looking for connection so I thought I would be at home.....lol. So as soon as I got on I got smiles and photo requests right away. I finally subscribed and I tell you, I lovingly wrote my profile, posted 3 of my best pics......I tell you I still admire my profile to this day.....the best written work of myself I have ever done......I put a lot of work and care into that thing.
Bear with me as I land. Within 2 weeks I got over 60! views although the actual interacting/conversation wasn't happening. There was this one male that I noticed visited more than the others. In fact he had visits almost every other day to my profile but would say NOTHING! At first it was flattering....I mean good looking, clean cut guy who said he was a bank exec. Anyway I noticed and tried to engage by asking him some safe questions.........how long have you been here? where is the town you listed located? etc
Anyway I noticed he did not ask me a whole lot of questions one would expect in a normal meet-up, like asking to know more about me, talking a bit more about himself voluntarily etc. I did not mind at first until he kept up with visiting my profile ALL THE TIME! And yet would say NOTHING - no hi, smiles, likes whatever zilch.
Ok it finally got to me and I ambushed him after yet another visit and asked him outright to stop or say something, and that it was unnerving. He apologised and said he would stop. But did he?? NOOO
So my question to you is this. Since this is my first time attempting such a thing, what does such behaviour mean? I have resolved to ignore him and not notice and am counting down to when my month is up. I am also not naive to scammers and their approach so no luck for them here.
This guy doesn't probe, or ask questions or talk freely about himself which scammers will do. Yet he has only one picture of himself which scammers do do. So what is this? I would really like if someone can help solve this puzzle for me. Thanks.
And oh.....I am not alarmed .....yet lol.
Since I have been a long time member of this site I feel entitled to finally start a thread after a long time. I really hope you guys can be helpful and I look forward to your perspectives and opinions. Which I really could use. So here goes.
Some time ago, I joined an online relationship site. No it's not what you think. I am not looking to date, flirt or chase men. But seriously it was more in line of penpal/friendship/intelligent interaction with the opposite gender to gain some clarity and perspective from what I am currently going through. A sort of respectful connection if you like. I thought I could find it elsewhere since my immediate circle is woefully inadequate for now. I am not exaggerating.
Anyway I chose one of the pricier sites for no longer than one month which was my duration. The site has the reputation of being for high-minded, 'classy' people looking for connection so I thought I would be at home.....lol. So as soon as I got on I got smiles and photo requests right away. I finally subscribed and I tell you, I lovingly wrote my profile, posted 3 of my best pics......I tell you I still admire my profile to this day.....the best written work of myself I have ever done......I put a lot of work and care into that thing.
Bear with me as I land. Within 2 weeks I got over 60! views although the actual interacting/conversation wasn't happening. There was this one male that I noticed visited more than the others. In fact he had visits almost every other day to my profile but would say NOTHING! At first it was flattering....I mean good looking, clean cut guy who said he was a bank exec. Anyway I noticed and tried to engage by asking him some safe questions.........how long have you been here? where is the town you listed located? etc
Anyway I noticed he did not ask me a whole lot of questions one would expect in a normal meet-up, like asking to know more about me, talking a bit more about himself voluntarily etc. I did not mind at first until he kept up with visiting my profile ALL THE TIME! And yet would say NOTHING - no hi, smiles, likes whatever zilch.
Ok it finally got to me and I ambushed him after yet another visit and asked him outright to stop or say something, and that it was unnerving. He apologised and said he would stop. But did he?? NOOO
So my question to you is this. Since this is my first time attempting such a thing, what does such behaviour mean? I have resolved to ignore him and not notice and am counting down to when my month is up. I am also not naive to scammers and their approach so no luck for them here.
This guy doesn't probe, or ask questions or talk freely about himself which scammers will do. Yet he has only one picture of himself which scammers do do. So what is this? I would really like if someone can help solve this puzzle for me. Thanks.
And oh.....I am not alarmed .....yet lol.
