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We paid for our own wedding. We only invited who we wanted. We never even thought of asking for money or having a registry as that would be like telling people, hey, give us "this".
Our philosophy was that if we were responsible enough to be working, and keeping a roof over our heads and paying our own bills, then if we wanted a wedding, then that was our responsibility as well.
We left it up to our guests to decide about gifts. We got a camp stove, lawn chairs, a cooler, a crock pot, etc. There was some cash, with which we bought an apartment size freezer, and 27 years later, we are still using it!
It seems there are so many faux pas when it comes to weddings, and they vary so much from area to area, and of course the whole cultural thing too. I went to a big lavish catholic wedding once, and just the brides dress cost more than our entire wedding, reception, and honeymoon combined!!
We probably did a lot of things "wrong". We even horrifyingly had a cash bar. (Which in our neck of the woods, and back in 1988, was perfectly normal, but I'm sure many of you are shuddering at our tacky, trailer park mentality ).
But we did exactly what we wanted, with who we wanted, with a budget we were comfortable with.
And we still have people tell us that it was one of the funnest weddings they ever went to.
If I have any advice, it's to stick up for yourself and do what you want. It's your wedding. It's not your parents/grandmas/aunts/cousins/bestfriends wedding. Yours.
Whiners can just get another drink. At the cash bar.
Our philosophy was that if we were responsible enough to be working, and keeping a roof over our heads and paying our own bills, then if we wanted a wedding, then that was our responsibility as well.
We left it up to our guests to decide about gifts. We got a camp stove, lawn chairs, a cooler, a crock pot, etc. There was some cash, with which we bought an apartment size freezer, and 27 years later, we are still using it!
It seems there are so many faux pas when it comes to weddings, and they vary so much from area to area, and of course the whole cultural thing too. I went to a big lavish catholic wedding once, and just the brides dress cost more than our entire wedding, reception, and honeymoon combined!!
We probably did a lot of things "wrong". We even horrifyingly had a cash bar. (Which in our neck of the woods, and back in 1988, was perfectly normal, but I'm sure many of you are shuddering at our tacky, trailer park mentality ).
But we did exactly what we wanted, with who we wanted, with a budget we were comfortable with.
And we still have people tell us that it was one of the funnest weddings they ever went to.
If I have any advice, it's to stick up for yourself and do what you want. It's your wedding. It's not your parents/grandmas/aunts/cousins/bestfriends wedding. Yours.
Whiners can just get another drink. At the cash bar.