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Telling the difference between a mens' mag and a rapist's words

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by Orable, Dec 10, 2011.

  1. Orable

    Orable Well-Known Member

    This is not meant to upset any survivors at all, so if you think this might be hurtful, please don't read further...

    I read this article today about a study that shows that people can't tell the difference between words uttered by convicted rapists and some "lads mags" or men's magazines, regarding women. It's truly horrifying.
  2. Karina1974

    Karina1974 Well-Known Member

    But is it really all that different from the shit that gets published for women in a magazine like Cosmo? Or Glamour? Some of the biggest print in the cover stories is about sex, and how to "please your man" or the "best sex positions". Nothing in there about how to truly cultivate a relationship past the physical level. And then there's the stories about the "latest trends" in hair and make-up, and fashion spreads with clothing I, for one, wouldn't be caught dead wearing in public even if I had the body to wear that stuff (because I DON'T think flaunting oneself in skimpy clothing is classy behavior, whether or not it would cause one to become a rape statistic).

    I stopped reading that tripe ages ago, and I'm glad I did. It's no wonder some men think of us women as "whores", even those of us who strive NOT to come across as such.
    Last edited: Dec 10, 2011
  3. milanessa

    milanessa engaged to dupa

    :confused: I think you've missed the point, Karina.
  4. modern_muslimah

    modern_muslimah Thinking of witty user title and coming up blank

    The quotes they used as examples were disgusting but not surprising. I did have a hard time telling which ones came from a lad mag and which came from rapists. Unfortunately, a lot of popular culture has resorted to giving men the message that women are disposable sex objects. Besides men's magazines, I think another thing that has contributed to this is the popularity of porn. Women are treated like disposable crap in porn and yet it is seen as being mainstream. No wonder so many men can't be in loving, egalitarian sexual relationships. They read and see things that tell them that women have no right to be treated as equal sexual partners.
  5. DAngel

    DAngel Well-Known Member

    S&M play article? :shuffle:

    I was so sure that's from a rapist :yikes:
  6. Anita18

    Anita18 Well-Known Member

    They all sounded like rapists. :shuffle:

    I believe there are plenty of guys who don't read that kind of crap. The guys who do, well, I'm sure would make themselves plain when you talked with them for even 5 minutes and would be easy to avoid dating. :eek: