I thought a nice thread to air various gripes and vents might be in order. Please feel free to add your own. My gripe. Certain family members who read a pamphlet or a text book, then decide they are the end all of experts, then thinks that gives them the right to make a once-in-three-months (or longer) apperance in my home to tell me I'm not taking care of our Mother properly. Sis is now "studying" to work in a hospice, and is reading up on what to expect when you see a hospice patient. They're talking about people who have just days to live. And now she's decided Mom is showing those same "symptoms." Believe me when I say she is seeing things that are not there, or escallating the infirmaties Mom does have. Sis has always been a hypercondriac. You wouldn't believe how many "diseases" she's had over the years...after she's read up on one or if she hears of a friend that has one. She is also overly emotional. How the hell her bosses thought she'd be good for hospice work is beyond me. Mom is frail. And she needs help with daily living. That's how it's been for years. Now sis is about ready to show up at the door with a freaking coffin. She's all gung-ho that she WILL be over this weekend, but refuses to tell me when. She's gonna call when she's on her way. I've told her endless amount of times i need TIME to get Mom up, to the bathroom and out to her chair. I need time the night before to plan on when to get her moving. It's very hard to motivate Mom, and even harder to get her going if she feels pushed. I am SO NOT looking forward to her visit. She's had all this time to work herself into a tizzy, and I am so not looking forward to protecting Mom from it all.