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Creepy to send gift cards anonymously?

Discussion in 'Off The Beaten Track' started by barbk, Dec 9, 2011.

  1. barbk

    barbk Well-Known Member

    We normally do Angel Tree or similar gift opportunities at the holidays, but this year I'm aware of a family I know just a bit that is facing some real financial hardship. I'm thinking of getting a nice gift card from the local supermarket (which includes a gas station and pharmacy) and another from Target, and just sending them anonymously in a Christmas card from "Santa." Would this be too creepy? This isn't a family I know really well, but I've heard about some of the circumstances through the grapevine, and they're really tough.

    Alternatively, they attend a church, and I could approach someone in the church office and ask that they be the intermediary, though I don't know anyone in that church office.

    Any thoughts about which would be better?
  2. milanessa

    milanessa engaged to dupa

    I think it's a lovely thought and an anonymous gift card would be welcomed. I don't see creepy at all.
  3. BigB08822

    BigB08822 Well-Known Member

    I think it would be very nice. It would kill me personally because I am a very curious person so I would be dying to know who did it but I wouldn't think it was creepy. I would think it was very nice and probably would be overwhelmed at the gesture.
  4. redonthehead

    redonthehead Well-Known Member

    I don't see a problem with it. "Secret Santas" can be so awesome and it allows you to do something for someone without making them feel embarrassed about their situation.
  5. agalisgv

    agalisgv Well-Known Member

    I don't think it's creepy, but I would probably opt for using the church as an intermediary. Generally churches are good at giving such assistance in a way that doesn't make the person feel singled out at all, and it would be coming from a source the person trusts. Receiving it randomly could make the person wonder just how much do people know about their situation, and make the person feel bad or uncomfortable.

    It really depends, but I always veer towards avoiding anything that could make a person feel bad about being in a tight spot.

    Very nice gesture though :)
  6. CynicElle

    CynicElle Well-Known Member

    I think sending the gift cards is a lovely idea.
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  7. Jenny

    Jenny From the Bloc

    Agree it's a very nice idea, especially if they find themselves in this situation for the first time. They might be embarrassed to accept charity if that's the case, so something anonymous with no strings attached is perfect, perhaps better than going through the church and putting community focus on their need.

    If it's well known and ongoing (ie a sick child that everyone is worried about), then yes, going through the church is probably best.
  8. DFJ

    DFJ Well-Known Member

    I think it's a great idea. Isn't that what Christmas is supposed to be about? Very thoughtful. :)
  9. Pierre

    Pierre New Member

    Sending a gift card in the mail sounds like a great idea! How sweet. :)

    The church would work as well, but the downside to that is that you might be making their situation known to someone who doesn't know (since you don't know the church that well I take it you don't know one worker there from another) and privacy in these kinds of situations is always nice.
  10. attyfan

    attyfan Well-Known Member

    ITA. Kudos to barbk.
  11. Skittl1321

    Skittl1321 Well-Known Member

    I don't think I would send them anonymously. If you have an intermediary to go through (like a church) I would try to do that. You don't have to tell the church WHY you are giving them, just ask the person in the church office to hand them to them "from a secret santa".

    If they arrived anonymously, I personally would be hesitant to use them, thinking it was some sort of scam. We live in a pretty guarded world.

    This is very generous of you, so I'd hate for it to not be used to its fullest.
  12. Matryeshka

    Matryeshka Well-Known Member

    I'd send it anonymously. You don't know the people in the church, and while it's not true of churches, IME, some church workers are worse gossips than beauticians and cheerleaders combined. I don't think it would be mean spirited, but if the point is not to call attention to this family's hardships, the less people that know the better.

    As for a scam, I think it's OK with gift cards. The store can tell them if the cards are legitimate or not.

    If I were in those circumstances, I would prefer to get anonymously. You don't have to worry about feeling embarrassed or feeling beholden to that person. I got an anonymous gift card once. I'm pretty sure it was from someone on FSU too--it was right after Katrina. I had lots of people offer assistance, but I just didn't feel like I could take it considering I'd never met most of you. But that card I did get made my freaking year. It wasn't just the money, it was the thought behind it--someone cared enough to help and didn't expect anything in return, not even acknowledgment.
  13. MikiAndoFan#1

    MikiAndoFan#1 Well-Known Member

    That would be a very nice gesture, barbk. :)
  14. nubka

    nubka Well-Known Member

    I think it's a wonderful idea - go for it! You will definately brighten someone's holiday by doing this. :)
  15. BigB08822

    BigB08822 Well-Known Member

    I also don't think you should go through the Church. They may be embarrassed to have it hand delivered and may think those people know all of their business, even if they don't. If you send it anonymously then they don't have to have that awkward moment. Just send it in the mail and add a little note saying Santa heard it had been a tough year or something, that way they will know it is from someone who knows them and not a scam.
  16. Cheylana

    Cheylana Well-Known Member

    Wonderful idea and not at all creepy!
  17. cruisin

    cruisin Banned Member

    I think it's a lovely idea. I agree that going through the church could create an awkward situation. I think redonthehead's Secret Santa suggestion is perfect. Just send it from a Secret Santa, with good wishes for a better 2012.

    barbk - You are amazing!
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  18. Simone411

    Simone411 I'm Clippy. I love Ashley and Janny!

    (((barbk))), I think it's very wonderful and kind of you. It speaks volumes about your generosity and unselfishness. :)
  19. PeterG

    PeterG Well-Known Member

    Creepy? No.

    Angelic? Yes.

    Merry Christmas! :)