I moved out of my parents house in the beginning of december, and rented an apartment with a friend of mine from college. It was a 6-month lease, everything was pretty much fine, but in April she told me that she couldn't afford to keep living there and had to look for a different place. I was at a particularly stressful time in my life so I was NOT looking to add moving to the list of items on my plate. With permission from my landlords, I started looking for someone else to rent the place with.
The person I ended up going with was a guy a few years older than me, who was, in his words, "working about 12 hours a day" landscaping, as well as installing burglar alarms and security cameras on the side. He had responded to an ad I posted online and we knew some of the same people but had never formally been introduced before he came to look at the place. The landlords met him and we signed a year lease.
Now, because of this persons line of work, he got paid in cash and suggested that he could just give me the cash for the rent each month and I would mail the check to the landlords. I wasn't particularly comfortable with this arrangement but I was so panicked about finding someone at that point that I agreed to it. The first few months were fine. We got along well, I met some of his friends and he some of mine, and it seemed like I'd gotten what I'd hoped for in a roommate - someone laid-back who would be respectful and share the bills.
Sometime in June, I heard through the grapevine that he was no longer doing the landscaping, although I never found out why. He gave me most of the money for July on time, and promised he'd have the rest to me within a week, which he did, and I didn't think much of it.
Well, end of July came, and I finally had to hunt him down because at that point rent was due THE NEXT DAY -at this point I'd already mailed the check- and I hadn't heard a thing from him about it. He said he'd had some sort of gig lined up for that day that hadn't worked out and he'd expected to have had the money in hand, but that he would in a few days. Now it's almost the end of August and I still don't have anything and he's barely said a word to me, period, much less about the money, in the past month or so, when we used to talk all the time.
I realize the simple solution is to talk to him about all of this but,
(A) he ALWAYS has people over and I'm not trying to cause a scene/
(B) he hangs with a bit of a rough crowd so he's not the kind of person I want to piss off and
(C) I guess because we'd gotten along so well at first I'm still hoping he'll come through.
All I know is I've been budgeted to within an inch of my life the past few months and I really didn't need that hit to my bank account and I'm really unsure how I should proceed from here. At the same time, it frustrates me more that he wouldn't talk to me about what was going on than that he didn't have the money. I realize it was probably not the wisest thing to move in with someone I barely knew, but I felt like I had no other options, and now I'm stuck $700 in the hole with rent coming up again shortly.