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    {{{Jesse}}} I hope the calls that have been made make a difference. Even if she is the only nurse, to ignore your pain that way is cruel and heartless. I can understand it might take some time, but to refuse to treat you is just unacceptable.

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    Awe Jesse, my heart breaks for you. I will echo what others have said, and what I've observed first hand while in hospitals. You need to have a family member or friend with you as much as possible to advocate for you. And, because it seems that this nurse now has her back up when it comes to you, the first priority really needs to get all the equipment in place so that you can go home. Hopefully the home care nursing you will receive will be far more receptive to your needs. At the very least, they will be focused only on you while they're with you and that alone should help! The thought of you in tears today is so upsetting. It's a very good thing I don't live nearby or I'd be there to haunt her for you! Sending you lots of good vibes and prayers that you can soon be moved to the comfort of your own home.

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    I don't know if she was talked to or not... because she is still treating me horribly. And trying to attack me saying I need mental help.
    And after I talked to the doctor to get my pain patches changed... she tried putting them on the same side they were already on which is the #1 thing you CANNOT do. So then I told her no, and she put them on the other side and you have to hold each one for 30 seconds..... she had them all on in 5 seconds and stormed out of the room. Now they're just going to come off again, they're already bunched up.. so I'm probably not getting my correct dose etc. This is just soooooooooooooooooooooo stressful to deal with and I am sick of cryinggggg.

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    Anyone in your predicament shouldn't be expected to act like a normal healthy person!

    Please, get a friend or relative to back you up. You're in no shape to have this stressing you out too. I'm so sorry to hear of your troubles.

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    There is a special place in hell for creatures like that nurse. Nobody should be treated like that, never mind someone who is so dependant on others. ((((((Spaz))))))
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    Okay, I'm just about to jump in my car & drive the 24 hours it would take me to get there. I cannot stand this, knowing how you're not being helped, both physically and emotionally.

    Can we mobilize something here? Is there a local church whose pastor might be willing to get involved? Is there a hospice organization who specializes in these cases? Surely, surely there is something that can be done, and surely, surely, there is someone who can help Jesse; he should NOT be put in this situation alone!

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    Quote Originally Posted by backspin View Post
    Okay, I'm just about to jump in my car & drive the 24 hours it would take me to get there. I cannot stand this, knowing how you're not being helped, both physically and emotionally.

    Can we mobilize something here? Is there a local church whose pastor might be willing to get involved? Is there a hospice organization who specializes in these cases? Surely, surely there is something that can be done, and surely, surely, there is someone who can help Jesse; he should NOT be put in this situation alone!
    I was kind of wondering the same thing. Is there no mama bear type here who lives close enough to go shake Nurse Ratchet up a bit lol? Seriously Jesse, don't waste your tears on this woman. Just keep working with her manager until you get the care you need. Perhaps they could transfer her to another floor as long as you're there. It's clear the two of you are not going to be able to have a good working relationship.

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    Jesse, you have had a very difficult day. I hope you sleep well tonight and you feel better tomorrow. Don't worry about anything. Don't even think about that nurse. Just give your body and mind full rest.

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    There is only one nurse on for the 12 hour shifts each day... so I am stuck with her. I'll be leaving the hospital tomorrow during that time so I don't have to be abused again.
    From messages I've been getting... a lot of you here think I am crazy as well, and contradicting things I say? This isn't the case.. I don't know why it came off that way. After the manager was contacted as well as the doctor for her refusing my pain meds, he put in the order and after that is when she had to come in and change my pain patches. And yes, most of my posts here are where I just need to rant and vent so maybe you're not hearing the good but several of the nurses are great and treat me very well! I don't feel any need to post about that though because I'm so overwhelmed by the few who are absolutely horrible... and that's what I feel the need to get off my chest. Now I feel awkward posting about any of it because I am told people here are thinking I'm a wacko or something... I do have tumors and am on medications etc but I swear I haven't lost my mind yet. :p

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    Quote Originally Posted by Spazactaz View Post
    There is only one nurse on for the 12 hour shifts each day... so I am stuck with her. I'll be leaving the hospital tomorrow during that time so I don't have to be abused again.
    From messages I've been getting... a lot of you here think I am crazy as well, and contradicting things I say? This isn't the case.. I don't know why it came off that way. After the manager was contacted as well as the doctor for her refusing my pain meds, he put in the order and after that is when she had to come in and change my pain patches. And yes, most of my posts here are where I just need to rant and vent so maybe you're not hearing the good but several of the nurses are great and treat me very well! I don't feel any need to post about that though because I'm so overwhelmed by the few who are absolutely horrible... and that's what I feel the need to get off my chest. Now I feel awkward posting about any of it because I am told people here are thinking I'm a wacko or something... I do have tumors and am on medications etc but I swear I haven't lost my mind yet. :p
    (((Spaz))))

    Jesse, I am sorry you feel this way. None of us thinks you are wacko or anything close to that. You have a healthy mind; you are dealing with very tough situations and still maintaining your sense of humor. I applaud you for that. Please don't worry about anything. We are all supportive of you, and we do not like those nurses that are making it difficult for you.

    Now clear your mind and have a good night's rest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vash01 View Post
    Jesse, I am sorry you feel this way. Practically every post I have seen here is sympathetic to you. None of us thinks you are wacko or anywhere close to that. You have a healthy mind; you are dealing with very tough situations and still maintaining your sense of humor. I applaud you for that. Please don't worry about anything. We are all supportive of you, and we do not like those nurses that are making it difficult for you.

    Now clear your mind and have a good night's rest.
    Spaz, we all care. We love hearing from you. Please just post whenever you feel like, K. (((( Spaz))))
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    Jesse,

    as a critical care nurse, I am grateful that you have mentioned that there are several nurses who are "great" and treat you well. You may not feel the need to post about that; but as one of the nurses who has great pride in the nature of my profession, and how I perform my job, I am very thankful to have you acknowledge that. I realize that the negative experiences will have more impact on most people than the positive; because the positive is just "them doing their job", right? But the reason that the negative ones stick out so badly is because, more often than not, the good ones do their job....like in customer service, waitressing, whatever. The negative leave an impact more than the positive. As I was reading also, I am not sure what "pain patches" are in use on you, although what I am most familiar with for chronic pain issues is Fentanyl; and those are only changed every 72 hours. I'm just saying that because perhaps you got confused as to when they were last changed? Or maybe they are something that are changed more often, I don't know. I just know that normally speaking, horrific nurses are rare, not the norm; and it's been sounding like yours have been the norm. Maybe a better talk with your physician about the exact orders of your medicines, even looking at your medical records, may be in order, to understand your plan of care as much as possible. For the rudeness, there is no excuse; but maybe there are reasons for some of the other things going on?
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    Vent and rant away, Spaz - I've been reading but not posting until now. I think and hope that most of us who've been reading this thread - and those who are posting - understand and wish we could be there to help smooth your way. That this is an outlet for you, with a bunch of people who care about something that has also been so important in your life - even if we don't know you personally - is a good thing. I hope your day tomorrow is much better, and your time out of the hospital is good!

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    I absolutely don't think you're crazy! To me, at times you sound exhausted, in pain, and overwhelmed. And at times you sound amazingly strong spirited. Who on earth wouldn't be having a hard time if they were in your position? You're doing so well, Jesse, you really are. Tell us anything you want to; rant away!! We're all here for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kasey View Post
    As I was reading also, I am not sure what "pain patches" are in use on you, although what I am most familiar with for chronic pain issues is Fentanyl; and those are only changed every 72 hours. I'm just saying that because perhaps you got confused as to when they were last changed? Or maybe they are something that are changed more often, I don't know.
    Yes they're Fentanyl patches.. I don't know WHAT the nurse thought was going on but from what she told the doctor they wanted to change my entire pain regimen after that. The problem was that the patch was all scrunched up and wrinkled and falling off, and suddenly I was in more pain than I've been in in weeks.... so I thought that might be the problem. So the nurse last night took off the patch, tried to smooth it out and taped it back on..... said if it didn't work she'd just give me a new one. In the morning I was still in lots of pain, but it was the new nurse on shift who refused to change it. I know it's normally 72 hours but this was just because of the falling off situation. And now the doctor changed it so they're to be changed every 48 hours because of this??!

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    I don't think you're crazy, Jesse. Thinking of you every day and sending comfort and healing vibes.
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    Crazy? You? Good grief!

    Some people....

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    Jesse,

    Ok on the fentanyl patches. The problem with those is, they take a while to build up a therapeutic medication load in your system, being that they are only changed every 72 hrs. Perhaps putting a clear bandage over the patch can help it stay on (we call them tegaderm dressings, but I think that's a brand name). I'm not sure if that will affect the absorption or not (never tried it). Along with the fentanyl, you should have some other pain medications ordered for "breakthrough" pain, like oral medicines (oxycodone, hydrocodone, oral morphine, etc). Another option is a "pain ball", which is just under the skin and filled with a set amount of pain medication dosage that basically dissolves in a certain amount of time (great for surgeries and such). Perhaps you can just ask the doctor "what is my pain regimen" and go from there with understanding what you can have, how much and when. And of course, I would always encourage non-pharmacological pain treatments, like massage/acupuncture (not often found in hospitals, unfortunately), meditation, music or other distraction, etc.
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    Jesse, let me reassure you, no one here thinks you're crazy. We understand this is a place for you to vent, and we want to try and comfort you. You probably are depressed, but who wouldn't be under your circumstances. Possibly, talk therapy could help you with coping mechanisms. Maybe help you to deal with some of the difficult nurses. But, we will do our best to help you cope, as well. Kasey really knows her stuff, let her help you. Sorry, I've been MIA for a while, I've been off line for family reasons. I think of you every day, and hope for each day to be better.

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    I don't know that anyone here thinks you're crazy. However you are dealing with a lot and I know from personal experince that in the US at least there are counselors who specialize in helping patients deal with critial illness issues. Perhaps this is what is being suggested? That you have someone to talk to who is trained to deal with the emotions and frustrations you're experiencing, rather than a bunch of distant strangers who, kind and supportive as they may want to be, are not in a position to actually help in person.

    Also, given your circumstances and the pain and medications you're dealing with, it's also possible that your perceptions of what's happening around you could be a tad distorted. What you're seeing as rude, harsh and negative treatment could be just brisk and businesslike and no-nonsense. Or the nurse could be overworked and stressed herself and reacting to what she might see as a patient demanding more attention than she can give.

    I know that the last time I was in the hospital a couple months ago, the first thing my roommate did when they settled me in was tell me how rude and inconsiderate and unhelpful the nurses and aides were. That wasn't my experience at all. But I wasn't in the same situation she was - sh'd had surgery and was in pain and uncomfortable and lonely; I just wanted to be left alone to sleep. Our needs were very different and so were our impressions of the staff who tried to meet them.

    There's no easy answer. It sounds like you've done what you can do by talking to the manager and getting your doctor's attention as to your pain levels. Venting here is fine. I'm just afraid that the negative aspects of your vents have given the impression that the hospital is negligent and the whole health care system has failed you. I'm just not sure that is the case. If that comes across as harsh or inconsiderate, I'm sorry. I do hope that you are getting the best care available.
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