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    Strangers who make rude comments...

    Sometimes I wonder what the heck is wrong with people...

    I'm 7 months pregnant, and the plethora of comments from complete and total strangers just keep coming. Everything from "You look like you're getting ready to drop a load!!" to "You look HUGE!!!". I even had one person tell me that I shouldn't be having a baby outside of marriage, and another person tell me that the coffee I was drinking was "bad for the baby", when I was actually drinking tea! And so what if I was drinking coffee?? Mind your own business people!

    I've had strangers make totally random comments to me about other things before getting pregnant anyway, but I know there are certain things that just make people feel compelled to "comment" on.
    Pregnancy, obesity, homosexuality, or even being "too-thin"...I know a lot of people who have had strangers come up to them and make comments for those reasons, and I just don't get why a stranger feels the need to comment to someone they don't know!

    *rant over*

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    I took my mother to the mall one time. She is weak and uses a walker, but she wanted to get out. We parked in a handicapped space. When it came time to leave, Mom could not make it back to the car and a stranger yelled at me because I was not handicapped and should not be parked there. I tried to explain that my Mom could not walk back to the car, but the stranger just kept yelling.

    Ya, what a world we live in. Lots of people never developed a filter between their (small) heads and mouth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smiley0884 View Post
    I just don't get why a stranger feels the need to comment to someone they don't know!
    It's probably because their parents never taught them proper manners.

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    When I was pregnant for my first, I used to get the head shakes and the "babies having babies" comments all the time. The last straw was when I was in a public bathroom and a mother with her teenage daughter were in there. The mom says "see? Babies having babies...it's just so sad" and they both gave me these pitiful looks of unapproval. So I said "how old does one need to be to be acceptably pregnant? I'm 25 and MARRIED!! Maybe you should not be so judgemental!!!" They just looked shocked and walked away like I was the rude one!

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    I think that you're probably just bloated and hopped up on caffeine to think about these people's comments rationally.
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    People are utterly amazing. I have no idea why they feel they have permission to comment about someone else's body, and why pregnancy thinks they are issued a "free pass". It is creepy.

    Although, maybe the media and the free-for all about this "bump" and that "bump" has something to do with it.
    DH - and that's just my opinion

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    I was at the grocery store during Lent a few years ago needing a chocolate fix!! Had some chocolate things in my cart. A woman passed by, shook her head, and made some comment that I should give up my vices during Lent. I wanted to say, "Well, it's a good thing I'm Jewish then" (I'm not) but I was too shocked to speak.

    Wish people would mind their own business. If I'm PMSing and need chocolate, leave me alone, lol!!!!

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    I imagine the people who make these comments are the same as the ones on these boards who feel the need to argue or criticize other posters opinions or to denegrate skaters. It's a need to boost their egos at the expense of someone else's, be they right or wrong!

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    It depends who the person is.

    I could tell a friend or family member they have a piece of food on their lip, a boogey showing or eye snot....... But I wouldn't tell the same thing to a stranger. I'd mind my own business and let them look gross.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Badams View Post
    When I was pregnant for my first, I used to get the head shakes and the "babies having babies" comments all the time. The last straw was when I was in a public bathroom and a mother with her teenage daughter were in there. The mom says "see? Babies having babies...it's just so sad" and they both gave me these pitiful looks of unapproval. So I said "how old does one need to be to be acceptably pregnant? I'm 25 and MARRIED!! Maybe you should not be so judgemental!!!" They just looked shocked and walked away like I was the rude one!
    wow that is really rude...I don't blame you for speaking up. I was at a restaurant last month and our waiter told me I looked too young to be pregnant, but since I was about my 28th birthday I let that one go But you're right...I didn't realize there was an age where it's "acceptable" to be pregnant.

    Quote Originally Posted by AxelAnnie View Post
    People are utterly amazing. I have no idea why they feel they have permission to comment about someone else's body, and why pregnancy thinks they are issued a "free pass". It is creepy.

    Although, maybe the media and the free-for all about this "bump" and that "bump" has something to do with it.
    Agree. Of course everyone internally judges others, but I'm not sure why some people feel compelled to just approach a complete stranger about their choices. The media is getting way too "baby bump" happy and I'm sure that doesn't help. With a lot of the pregnancy blogs I belong to all they ever seem to talk about is Kim K's bloated face and feet.

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    You're pregnant. You have the perfect excuse to blast the snot-nosed jerks. "It's the hormones talking. What's your excuse?"

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    Many of my pregnant friends have said that it is really amazing that people think it is appropriate to put their hand on your stomach without being invited. They would never do that if you weren't pregnant, why do they get a pass when you are pregnant?
    I think I will have a snack and take a nap before I eat and go to sleep.

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    I am sorry you had to hear this. Not sure why pregnancy brings out the nosy Yenta in people. When I was pregnant, I had guys (GUYS!) lecturing me about the dangers of epidural and how it's a neurotoxin and how if I want the best for my baby, I would have him "naturally."

    I learned to say that the lidocaine your dentist uses to drill your teeth is also a neurotoxin. Why doesn't the guy in question have his teeth done "naturally?"
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    I was 7 months pregnant and interviewing people for a position at my company. One woman put her hand on my stomach and said "will the baby kick for me?" I moved away and said "no, but I will if you touch me again". She didn't get the job.

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    My bff got the constant headshakes and your too young to be pregnant remarks – and she was 28. All of these comments floor me because I am Queen of Oblivion, and would likely not even notice if someone is pregnant, much less guess someone’s age.
    What would Jenny do?

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    Several years ago, a board member at a previous job kept alluding to my due date. I tried to steer her off the topic and she wouldn't budge, so I finally said "do you think I'm pregnant? I'm just FAT." which flustered her to the point that she insisted on standing in my office and making me talk about some other trivial thing for 10 more minutes before she would finally leave and I could crawl under my desk and die (and call my friend to co-die of awfulness).

    At least she didn't try putting a hand on me. I would probably still be incarcerated if she had (this was at least 8 years ago).
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    Try being a smoker. (Or don't, it's bad for you.) You are standing ten yards away from everyone in an outside space and a child walks up to you and says, "You're gonna die from that." Do you know how hard it is not to say, not as fast as you will if you don't get out of here?

    I have explained to children that it is not polite to tell strangers what to do, and that I promised that when they misbehaved in public I would not tell them to stop and embarrass them. The older ones got the message.

    We won't even get into the adults shouting things. Literally.
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    I was chewed out by a total stranger in a public park once for being a teen mother. I was 25 and the child was my nephew.

    My eyes are extremely sensitive to light so I wear sunglasses year round in all weather. Strangers often tell me I shouldn't be wearing sunglasses because it is winter, or cloudy, or dusky, or whatever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PDilemma View Post
    My eyes are extremely sensitive to light so I wear sunglasses year round in all weather. Strangers often tell me I shouldn't be wearing sunglasses because it is winter, or cloudy, or dusky, or whatever.
    Just tell them that the sun always shines on you. :-)
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