crusin, ((((hugs and support)))) to your friend.
She is fortunate to have you, too
Oh, and she was managing editor of her school's circuit review. And she got a fantastic clerkship for this fall!
And no, being rich and famous doesn't mean you 'deserve' less sympathy. Evidence also shows that it doesn't make people happy (although struggling to survive does make people unhappy). The rich and famous can be miserable.
And no again, being rich doesn't compensate for a double masectomy and reconstruction. But it sure can makes the experience easier to deal with and lower the stress involved. I'm sure AJ would acknowledge that.
And AF has her circle of loved ones who support her, just as most people do. Members of the public aren't required to have a certain amount of sympathy for her, we don't even know her.. There are many in far worse circumstances than she is - women die of breast cancer because they couldn't afford the test, or the health care, or the treatment - or didn't have access to health care. In some ways, she is blessed. And I've no doubt she would - again- acknowledge that herself.
You say though that being in a position where you have access to the best care and support system for you and your family doesn't make a difference.
Clever: society just made the ultimate progress, people are finally equal.
Also, I don't think anybody denies that having resources and wealth would make one in a better position to deal with the consequences of having a high risk of a potentially terminal medical condition (such as having the best doctors, knowing your kids will be taken care of, etc.), but ultimately the fear of dying is still the fear of dying. Also, I think Jolie is cognizant about her situation regarding her young kids, and I bet she was very worried about leaving them even though Brad Pitt has the resources to care for them and they can hire the best nannies in the world. I mean, no matter what, she's their mother and having all the money in the world can't replace your mother.
Another issue that I mentioned in the earlier post, and I imagine would be a concern for anyone who receives such a diagnosis, is that she's likely worried about the possibility that she's passed this genetic mutation on to her biological children; obviously not the sort of thing a mother would want for her kids, even with the hope that there will be medical breakthroughs that will allow for better outcomes in the future.Also, I don't think anybody denies that having resources and wealth would make one in a better position to deal with the consequences of having a high risk of a potentially terminal medical condition (such as having the best doctors, knowing your kids will be taken care of, etc.), but ultimately the fear of dying is still the fear of dying. Also, I think Jolie is cognizant about her situation regarding her young kids, and I bet she was very worried about leaving them even though Brad Pitt has the resources to care for them and they can hire the best nannies in the world. I mean, no matter what, she's their mother and having all the money in the world can't replace your mother.
Now when the young boys see her on screen, they may be thinking of cancer and disease when they look at her boobs or "oh those are fake". Maybe not. But it's a risk and a fear and it is part of what makes her actions brave. No, not as brave as rescuing a kid from a burning building but braver than staying silent, which she was perfectly within her rights to do. It's her medical issues and those don't belong to the public.
Personally I think it would be great if those things didn't happen and her career thrives because it would advance society and help other women in this situation.
I actually think it's a bit naive to think that money somehow isolates you from fear in these situations. I am pretty sure the first thing that went through Jolie's head when she found out she had the gene wasn't "Thank god, I'm rich and it won't be as bad as if I was poor." I'm pretty sure it was something along the lines of "OMG, I hope I don't die!" And the next big fear was probably "Crap, I've probably given this to my kids. I suck."
The money thing is more of a silver lining. It's how you console yourself when you get some of the worst news of your life. And it comes later. Often much later. And sometimes is not much consolation. Especially in this case when she is going to have a hysterectomy and lose her ability to have more biological children. She's had her choice taken away from her through no fault of her own and being rich didn't protect her from that either.
Actual bumper sticker series: Jesus is my co-pilot. Satan is my financial advisor. Budha is my therapist. L. Ron Hubbard owes me $50.
Not to mention: "OMG, I am losing my womanhood!" Breasts and ovaries, that is. No mention of a hysterectomy but likely that too. As some had said, surgical menopause is tough, whether you are rich or not.
Is she brave? I don't know. But it's nice of her to use her name to make people aware of this and to help patients in the same boat to feel perhaps a smidgen less isolated.
"Nature is a damp, inconvenient sort of place where birds and animals wander about uncooked."
from Speedy Death
I suspect that Jolie picked the timing of her procedures to coincide with the decision to not have any more biological children. This would not be unheard of with women who have certain types of cancer, and have some flexibility and knowledge, like Jolie, to set their schedules. Doctors usually advise such things. IME, lots of decisions and options offered to patients wrt any ob/gyn issues revolve around the patients desire (or not) to have children.
What would Jenny do?
If she wants more children she seems very comfortable with adopting.
3539 and counting.
Slightly Wounding Banana list cont: MacMadame.