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    (((Bonita)))) hope you will get some more definite answers soon, and also ((((backspin))) for dealing with similar issues. Sending both of you positive and healing thoughts.

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    hang in there bonita
    sending you loads of postivie and healing thoughts for your family - and a better year ahead

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    ((Bonita & Mr. Bonita))

    I had Stage 2 Hodgkin's Lymphoma almost six years ago. I underwent 4 months of chemo and last fall was told by my oncologist he didn't ever want to see me again There are many positive outcomes for lymphoma. I found things much easier to deal with after I got into the routine of chemo and had got past the diagnosis/staging part of things. If you have any specific questions, please ask or pm me. Everyone deals with illness and crisis slightly differently and I think the thing I tell everyone who asks for my advice/experience when going through something similar is that your feelings are valid. Some people are sad, some people get angry, etc... It's all valid. I had a lot of people offering sympathy and a lot of friends/family were a lot more upset than I was. I really hated that. My attitude was totally this sucks, let's deal with it. But people told me I wasn't upset enough, and that I was deluding myself. Not helpful. You might very quickly find that you have to be a gatekeeper of sorts for your husband. Chemo exhausts you to your very core and a lot of really well-meaning people in their 'helpfulness' are really not helpful. It gets hard to be polite to people and deal with people when your body doesn't feel like your own anymore and everyone wants to share their latest miracle cure or whatever. Finally, make sure you take care of yourself. Don't try to take on the caretaker role in its entirety by yourself. Ask for help when you need it (even if it's just an ear to listen when things get tough, which it probably will). I'll be keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.
    "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better." -- Samuel Beckett

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    Thank you all for the positive encouragement and info. We really need it. I'm going to forward this thread to "Mr. Bonita," LOL.

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    Bonita, there wasn't very many options back when my mom had cancer. But because of her and many others that volunteered to try experimental chemotherapies back then, the treatments have come a long way. Keeping "Mr. Bonita" in my thoughts and prayers.
    Angie
    “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” ~ Thomas A. Edison

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    My mom died of cancer too, so sucks losing your mom. My mom was on a med with a freaking co-pay of $500/month and still died.

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    No advice, just sincere well wishes for you and your husband. My mom battled cancer last year. It's not an easy road, but there are some very effective treatments and no reason at this time to think that your husband will not have a very good outcome. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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    The American Cancer Society has a wealth of information and help. As posted earlier, I just want to keep bringing them up. Also if you need help, don't be afraid to ask friends and neighbors. I've been a 'neighbor'.

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    My husband finally has a diagnosis. He has Hodgkins mixed cellularity. The doctor told him it is one of the more treatable ones, we’ll see. He’s going to treat at the Dana Farber in Boston with a lymphoma specialist who is a friend of a friend.

    Backspin, I tried to send you a PM, but your message box is full up!

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    Thanks for updating us Bonita, and while all of this is scary, I'm glad your husband has a relatively good diagnosis and that he is going to such a leading and accomplished facility for treatment. This sounds very positive, but I'll keep him and you in my thoughts.
    "The Devil is joining in, and that's never a good sign." Phil Liggett

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    Sending encouragement and support to both of you.
    I'm glad that your husband is being treated in a facility that is at the cutting edge of current research.

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    Bonita, I cleared my box so you can send a message now!

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    Hi Bonita, hugs and best wishes to both you and your husband. I also sent you a pm with some information that might help.
    just my two cents...

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    Positive thoughts

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    ((((Bonita and her family))))

    Sorry that I could only provide prayers and good wishes to your family.

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    Thanks for updating us and it is a good thing to be able to see some of the best doctors. Keep us posted on how he is doing, and of course how you are doing. Sometimes having a place to vent that is not with family or rl friends is one of the best things.

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    Do try to stay positive, though I know it's frightening. We are all wishing for the best outcome for you both.
    Be with me always—take any form—drive me mad! only do not leave me in this abyss, where I cannot find you! Oh, God! it is unutterable! I cannot live without my life! I cannot live without my soul!"

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    Prayers for your husband. And for you as well.
    Give me one more quiet night, before this loud morning gets it right, and does me in.
    ~DC

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    Sending prayers and positive thoughts you and his way.

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    Prayers for both you and your husband, bonita.

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