Awesome analysis. You give voice to what I feel and cannot express myself about why I prefer V&M.As he says, she tries a bit too hard and she tends to oversell it, so it doesn't look natural. The lady is the face of the team, she is the reference. Always. In both pairs and dance. In any performance, they viewer will always look at the lady first, she is in charge of finishing each movement, of making a statement because, usually, the dance is told from the lady's POV. This doesn't mean that the man is just there. A skilled partner will always be a great presenter, because his skills are consistent with those of the lady. He also has to lead and lead well. Charlie doesn't lead Meryl and he certainly doesn't present her well as a male dancer would.
With them, it's not so much about accents and pauses. They do not make statements with their movements; their limbs do not tell a story, so the movements are sometimes aimless: she reaches out to touch his chest, but it is over before it even begins. He lifts her, but her legs and arms simply move, but her fingers and her feet don't work harmoniously. During the step sequences, her hand on his shoulder is there to grab him and complete a step. He is faster, so she needs to take more strokes to compensate, but even then, you see they are just compensating steps, not a dancing step. They are straight-forward: they do A to accomplish B to then reach C.
With V-M, each tiny little detail has a purpose. Look at the way she simply puts her arm on his shoulder, but see how she... I don't know how to say it in English, she just has a way of setting her shoulders and arms that bring such fluidity to her hands, so they are like a feather on his shoulder. That's a tiny detail that you would think matters very little, but when you see them move, that's what makes the dance so graceful from the waist up. That posture is NOT easy and hold it for 4 minutes, on skates, that's VERY tough. But she can and she does. And this is just an example. We could talk hours about the many details and nuances each V-M dance has. They don't skate from A to be to C. A must mean something and they deconstruct that meaning and tell you, "and this is why B happens", see the difference? Again, I am not sure I am explaining myself too well. It's hard for me to express these things in English, but to me, the difference between both this is SO obvious it's almost tangible.