Thank you for clarifying your position. That makes sense. What I have found confusing in this rehashing of the debate (and still find confusing to some extent) is the fact that smaller discussions - around choice, the influence of parents on their children etc. - emerged within the context of a broader "live and let live" vs. "speak out against religious misogyny" debate, which seems subsequently to have been neglected.
When read within that context, your nuancing of the question of choice and your emphasis on the possibility of women leaving these communities, seemed to support the "live and let live" position as it was formulated in opposition to those who advocated the importance of criticising religious misogyny. Do you believe,then, that the religious misogyny of conservative religious communities is deleterious to young women and that people should speak out against it or do you believe that because young women have a choice about leaving and thus choose that path (submission to fathers/husbands etc.), that objections to religious misogyny are invalid?