If you reread my post which you quoted, you'll see I said the spouse needs to be fully supportive in order for ordination to proceed. That means if ministerial candidates indicate their spouses aren't behind them, the board of ordained ministries will defer on their ordination. Why? Because ministry makes significant lifelong demands on its clergy, and that has direct material impact on someone's spouse. If spousal support isn't there, then that has to be addressed before a candidate will be approved.
Nowhere did I say spouses are tracked down and required to sign on dotted lines, etc, so no sarcasm requiredThis is rather a central feature of life in the ministry.It's true their lives are generally an open book, their actions are judged by people to be within a certain standard
If people recall when Petreaus stepped down, the issue was the post he occupied required a higher level of personal scrutiny than a regular job. So his affair had larger repercussions. Well, with the ministry it's like that, but even moreso. One's private life is part of one's ministerial testimony, and having significant family problems can absolutely hinder one's ability to fulfill one's calling.
Small quibble, but in Methodist theology, there is the possibility of perfect persons--rather a central feature of that belief system in fact.There is no perfect person celibate or not.
But that's for another discussionAgain, having families can be a hindrance--no question. But celibacy also has its hindrances. So I would argue one is trading one set of hindrances for another. They both have their upsides and downsides.My objection to the comments made by some is that one must/should/needs to be celibate to dedicate themselves to God, not distracted by sex, spouses, families, and to be able to adequately serve a congregation.