I know I am very late to the "Sex and the City" scene, but since re-runs (including marathons ) of the series are on TV all the time, I figure there must be folks like me who are now just seeing this show for the first time, or who are very interested in watching re-runs.
I had always had the impression that the women on this show were so indepenedent and that they were models of women who got it all -careers, great friends, and ultimately, great long-term relationships with men. So I was quite surprised to see that the 3 women who got married ended up with men who didn't seem so great:
Harry: Althuogh he seems like a very nice guy at times, his treatment of the conversion was terrible from start to finish: waiting until after he and Charlotte were involved to tell her he'd never marry a non-Jew, his inability to verbalize a single thing about the faith itself that he felt was so important for her to share, and the extraordinarily ignorant way he treated her at their first Sabbath after she had gone through intense study to convert and a week's work to prepare their first Sabbath meal. Sure, Charlotte said some mean things to him that night, but this was after he had been so rude to her.
Steve: In some ways, he's nice, too, but I don't hink he contributed a single thing to their relationship until they were married. He moved into her apartment, where she did all the housework. He refused to turn his cartoons down when she was trying to work at home; it was his idea for them to get a dog and Miranda got stuck caring for it. He never dressed up for dressy events. Heck, he didn't even engage in proper hygiene, which Miranda learned after washing his whites. Not to mention the affair.
Interesting, that for all their men's shortcomings. Miranda and Charlotte each took full blame for the breakups with Steve and Harry prior to their ultimate marriages.
John (Big) - His emotional distance and his repeated "pull Carrie in then push her away" tactics lasted all the way from the 1st season to the 2nd movie.
BTW, Samantha and Smith was my favorite relationship of all. I just loved how deep he turned out to be, and how their relationship that started out so frivolous grew into meaningful love. The other 3 men could take notes from young Smith about how to be a loving, kind, thoughtful companion.