Shocking, I know.
Shocking, I know.
To think that fun is simple fun, while earnest things are earnest, proves all too plain that neither one thou truthfully discernest.
Wow. More power to him!
*grumbles* The best looking ones are always taken or gay.
While I'm not shocked I do applaud his bravery. As famous as he is and as young as he still is, to come out this way must have been very traumatic and to handle this so maturely is to be applauded. Not to mention the help this move will give to others facing a similar dilemma. Well done Tom
I misread this as "Tom Delay," former US Congressman, and I was shocked!
Oh, that guy. The hot diver, not surprised. Good for him.
Keeper of Nathalie Pechelat's bitchface.
No real surprise but glad he could do it on his own terms. Well done Tom!!
I think Tom doing a youtube video where no one can edit what he says is a smart way to do it. Though, if he wants to avoid personal questions in unrelated interviews or rumors and speculation, adding in the "of course I still fancy girls" isn't going to help him. It seems that society still hasn't accepted the idea of being bi. Though I guess that statement doesn't really say if he is or not, maybe he still doesn't know what his 'label' is?
Is Tom still an active diver? I think it is a shame how many sportsmen feel like they still have to hide this.
I meant still competing, not retired. I don't know what other meaning there is.
As a gay man, I applaud Tom for having the courage to speak out. When you have persistent rumours following you around and millions of followers it can be a very tough thing, but good on him for doing it on his own terms! As for "fancying girls" he very well still does and that's no one's business but his own. It could be he never dates another woman, it could be he marries a woman, that's for him to determine. I say congrats Tom and wish you all the happiness in the world!
This is as shocking and unexpected as Weir coming out.
Something like this would have never happened until very recently. Daley is young, very handsome, has a high public profile and any manager or pr person would tell him to stay in the closet because coming out would almost certainly make him less attractive to sponsors.
It's great to hear about his family's support and I also hope that he is going to encourage more athletes to come out.
Last edited by Ziggy; 12-02-2013 at 11:05 PM.
Kudos to Tom.
"I hit him with my shoes... if he had given me the medal like I told him to, I wouldn't have had to hit him!" -- 8-year-old Rhoda Penmark in "The Bad Seed"
One day it will just be a blip on someone's biography and that will be that. Famous people, especially athletes, coming out I think will help spur that along. But that day isn't here yet. Straight is still the default until proven otherwise, and many people still don't believe children know they're gay. I dunno, I had a crush on a boy in the second grade, I already knew then I liked boys. Why should it be any different if a little boy crushes on another boy or a little girl crushes on another girl?
I think Tom just wants to be openly happy with his partner. His coming out officially is just a formality for the public.
Last edited by Lorac; 12-03-2013 at 09:02 AM.
People can live their lives however they want, but the world tends to want labels. Especially when you are in the public eye and someone needs to write a headline. I could care less what the label is, what Tom Daley "is" really doesn't effect my life at all. It's just that in our current world, people seem to be moving towards very accepting of gay, but still very wary of 'bi'. (Me personally, it doesn't matter to me- what other people do with their love life has nothing to do with me.) I just don't think that he did much to end speculation and rumors. I do think he was incredibly brave to make the statement, especially with regards to sports sponsorship.
Good for him. I'm glad he was able to do this on his own terms.
I read it on Buzzfeed first and unfortunately, there was another piece that outlined negative responses on Twitter. People can be so gross.
my favourite blog:
'And so when we speak about my sexuality or my gender, as we do (and as we must), we mean something complicated by it. Neither of these is precisely a possession, but both are to be understood as modes of being dispossessed, ways of being for another, or, indeed, by virtue of another.'
BuzzFeed has a good article, making that point:
Of course, as you said, people want labels and a lot of gays are going to bash him for what they will see as a cop out. The first comment under the above article says 'unfortunately he felt the need to qualify his statement by saying he still is attracted to women.'