As in you want names? I can think of a few from around here...
If I had a dollar for every time I got distracted, I wish I had some ice cream.
Gotta love how you start changing the story as soon as you get unfavourable responses...
Last edited by Alex Forrest; 11-25-2012 at 12:25 PM.
We went from this originally:
Thank you for responding. I hope I clarified things, I haven't changed anything wrt this incident.
Last edited by Alex Forrest; 11-25-2012 at 12:44 PM.
Ah. I see. More hyperbole.
Alex, one reason people take issues with your posts is not to be mean but because you tend to be overly dramatic & sometimes your details can be picked apart. $120 for gym clothes...OMG that's a fortune!!! Nevermind that good yoga pants can cost more than that. And where I live gym memberships aren't cheap...so your friend can afford that but would have trouble paying $100?
Maybe I'm a suspicious person but I find it let's say odd that you often mention how comfortable financially you are. It's verging on bragging.
Move to Vancouver BC: it's very easy to do dinner and a movie for one on $50, and that even includes a glass of wine. Or a cover charge and a few drinks at a club. The monthly gym membership at the practically new Y, with a beautiful pool and great equipment in the middle of town on Burrard Street, is $56/mo, or $46/mo for under 35.
Although this is the land of lululemon, I've never spent $120 on a gym outfit, let alone a pair of yoga pants, but $120 sounds right for a nice gym outfit from looking at the prices at the nearby Running Room and the locally made One Tooth Activewear.
"This, after all, is opera, opera in New York, not some dainty pastime like professional hockey..." -- Chip Brown, NYT Magazine 24 Mar 13
On second thought, Taf, weren't you the one who got all nasty and accused me of bragging because I once posted that I gave $1000 to a charity? I think it was the homeless senior in HS who was working 50 jobs and her school expelled her for missing so much class, and I posted that I gave to her fund to encourage others. Certainly it wasn't to brag to strangers on the internet, most of whom I will never meet. You probably also shouldn't go on the Oksana/WMA thread because I also mentioned that I sponsored a girl in my neighborhood to make a point about Galina's treatment of Oksana. It wasn't to brag. In real life I would never mention what I contribute. No one in my neighborhood knows I helped this family out, unless they said something. So maybe I should just take it with a grain of salt and recognize the source. And I find it odd that you would think I'm bragging. I mean really, for what purpose??? I know only a few people on FSU in real life, and the rest I will probably never meet. I don't really care at all what people on an anonymous message board think of me, good bad or indifferent, and I certainly don't have a desire to brag to or try to impress people I'm never going meet. It sounds more like jealousy, and that's your issue.
And the unfortunate thing about message boards is so much is left open to assumptions and different interpretations. This was not a dramatic situation, it was resolved quickly and it's back to normal. I was upset, sure, I think most people would have been upset if someone threw away their property in a thoughtless act. I wasn't whining or crying with my friend and making it seem like the end of the world was coming. The situation seems to have come across totally differently on this board then how it transpired IRL. Maybe because I only post about issues or problematic situations does it seem that I'm dramatic. Believe me, my life is pretty dull and boring. Why start a thread about how I slept in, had lunch, had a good time with friends and am now going to sleep? That's what Facebook is for. haha. So when you don't know me IRL and all you see is me looking for advice on how to solve a problematic situation, I guess I could come across as dramatic and have a life filled with problematic situations.
To answer another question upthread, if he had washed my clothes and the dryer burnt them or other clothes bled and ruined my clothes, if he said "Alex, I am so sorry" I'd let it go. I was almost going to let this go, but the more I thought about it the more annoyed I was. And that he never said "I'm sorry" really upset me.
I'd really like to know if anyone here would have thrown out the clothes if they were in the same situation? Fess up. I don't think anyone will, because it is inexcusable.
Last edited by Alex Forrest; 11-25-2012 at 11:46 PM.
I'm not sure what I would have done if the clothes were really stinky because I am really sensitive to smells. My husband bought me a fragrance thing for my car & I put it in the trunk so it wouldnt' be too strong but I had to remove it because the smell was choking me. He said he couldn't even smell it. You say the clothes were wet...wet clothes mildew really quickly and at that point (when they really start smelling even worst) I would have a problem even handling them at all & sure wouldn't want them in my garage on or my porch. But if that was your friend's problem he should have said so. Maybe he didn't want to appear too whimpy. Either way, it may have been a thoughtless solution but I wouldn't call it unexcusable.
Sometimes Alex, I think you take parts of TV/Movies/Books/Entertainment Columns to make up stories and post it just to get attention/drama. Then when the story lines start to get criticism, you change it and can not make it consistent. This is why people "see you as dramatic
You went to the gym with friend, you left your clothes in someone's car, you abandoned that friend to hook up with other friends, friend goes home, you don't call friend, friend gets angry and throws clothes away, you request monetary compensation, you get compensation for lost clothing, you still want apology, friend didn't offer one. You and friend have plans for Thanksgiving dinner. This friend is more than a casual friend - you have given friend access (key) to your home in the past. I don't know anyone who gives a casual/gym friend a key to their house.
It isn't about the clothes - it's about the nature of the relationship. You both are drama queens. You don't like the advice or the lack of sympathy, I am sure his side of the story has major drama too.
And Taf, I respect that you and many others have issues with smells. But there were other options, like just putting the bag outside or in the garage, or yes, even wash them since he washed his clothes that day. The clothes weren't drenched, they were just sweaty. Throwing them out without at least giving me a warning seems harsh. And part of me suspects he did that because he knew how much I liked that outfit. I stood taller in them, felt more attractive, and felt much better about myself in them. I suspect he picked up on that, and threw them out to be spiteful or passive aggressive. Yeah, great friend, right? But that is only a suspicion. I can't read his mind, so I'm going to not think about it like that.
Last edited by Alex Forrest; 11-26-2012 at 12:19 AM.
Yes, you're a drama queen. It's actually quite funny so keep on posting.
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I have to agree about the drama. I would have been disappointed that a friend threw out nice work out clothes but I would have gotten the frack over it.
~I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.~ (Charles R. Swindoll)
I find it interesting that AF usually works out on old clothes from good will, but on the one day he leaves his wet, mildewing clothes in his friends car and they get thrown out, he is wearing expensive work out wear. As Arsenio Hall used to say, "Things that make you go hmmm."
"You can get so much of good thing, you can linger too long in your dreams, say good-bye to the oldies but goodies, 'cause the good ole days weren't always good, and tomorrow isn't as bad as it seems" Billy Joel (as quoted by BigBadBob)