It's not that big a deal, well it is because I think my friend was way off base and extremely rude. Looking for some perspective.
I worked out with a friend on Sunday. I left my gym bag in his car with my sweaty, wet workout clothes in a plastic bag inside. I went over to his house on Wednesday, we were going to have drinks, go out to dinner. I also wanted to get my gym bag. I saw that my gym clothes weren't in my bag, and I asked him where they were. Get this, he said they stunk so badly that he THREW THEM OUT. I saw that he had done laundry earlier and asked him why didn't he just put them in the wash? "Because I didn't want them to CONTAMINATE my clothes". I was dumbfounded. I never got a call "Alex, come get your gym bag, your clothes stink inside it" and he lives five minutes away from my house so he could have just dropped it off or I could have gotten them, no problem.
Does anyone else find this inexcusable? If someone left something smelly in my car/house, I'd let them know they need to retrieve them, and probably put them in my laundry room or outside under my porch if they smelled that bad. Never would I just throw someone's belongings out without at least trying to get the owner to retrieve them.
Oh also, these weren't just ratty ass gym clothes. The top and shorts were $120 and very nice. I loved the color, the cut, the way I looked in them, and the way I felt in them. Plus there is a sentimental component to that outfit also. Which is probably why I'm as upset as I am. But still, isn't it crazy for a friend to do that?
I know that a gym outfit isn't worth ending a friendship over, but would it seem out of line for me to demand that he reimburse me for the clothes he threw out? Of course when he sees how much they were, he won't pay up because he probably can't afford to (it would be like me having to pony up like $500 our incomes are so disparate).
Any opinions? Get over it? Move on, and just make sure I never leave anything with him again? Or hold a grudge that he would essentially 'steal' my clothes and do what he wanted with them which is what I feel.