The Mom Gene--do you have it?

[gkelly]

And what would Gene Turner have to say on the subject?

[skatingfan5]

And what would Gene Turner have to say on the subject?

What subject -- the Mom Gene or pie? Whichever subject, I would expect him to have opinions both for and against most every position, since he could evidently jump both cw and ccw.

[TygerTyger]

I don't know, I never had any issues doing AP parenting and working.

Okay, it all makes sense now. You had a staff.

[vesperholly]

eg. I can't choose to eat all pretzels out of the Chex Mix bc then no one else can eat any

We would get along. I pick out all of the Chex and throw away the pretzels.

[Susan1]

I never had baby dolls. Tons of barbies though. Well, I did have at least one baby doll, but I never really played with it.

I had one baby doll too, but I don't think I played with her much. I had a Baby First Step though, not the kind of doll you "mother". And Barbies. I never even thought about that being an indication toward how I've never really wanted kids. I did babysit for everybody in the neighborhood though. I had tons of stuffed animals, mostly dogs. (My second word was "Goggie", after "Dada". Mommy was third!) Hm.

[Lanie]

I meant to come back to this thread and say thanks to the encouraging comments. I appreciate it SO MUCH. I have bad PPD and add in being hard on myself and other things going on out of my control and I feel so inept.

At least I have a happy baby, even when he has pants on his head!

[TygerTyger]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YBws...ature=youtu.be

[HisWeirness]

I meant to come back to this thread and say thanks to the encouraging comments. I appreciate it SO MUCH. I have bad PPD and add in being hard on myself and other things going on out of my control and I feel so inept.

At least I have a happy baby, even when he has pants on his head!

Great photo! A friend of mine posted this article today on facebook about motherhood, and I found it to be very touching.

People are often surprised when I moan about things I cannot do or that I am constantly tired and spend half my day peeing because they rarely hear complaints from other pregnant women.

I've had the opposite experience. Probably the third question my coworkers/friends have been asking is how I feel (after when are you due and is it a boy or girl). Since I've been feeling generally ok now that I am in my second trimester (minus a couple of crappy days in the beginning), I feel that I am disappointing them because I do not have some morning sickness horror story to share. Of course, the really bad stuff you don't want to share anyway.

To be fair, I do try to avoid complaining about some inconveniences to others because I fear that when I am really not feeling well and need help I won't be taken seriously. It's just one of my personality habits. My husband, on the other hand, gets to hear all of the complaints.

[cruisin]

The worst - when you are in your 8th/9th month and you sneeze - you wet your pants! So embarrassing!

[MacMadame]

My dog likes pecan pie. Can we talk about dogs now?

NO!

(There are too many threads about dogs already.)

Okay, it all makes sense now. You had a staff.

Unless you mean I had a stick that I beat people with....

Personally I found a lot of AP practices like sleeping with the baby to work better with working than the non-AP alternatives. I'm all for being lazy and having to get out of bed to feed the baby in the middle of the night took way more energy than just having the baby right there in bed with us. And that's just for starters.

[oleada]

HisWeirness, I didn't know a little Weird One was on the way. Congrats

[TygerTyger]

NO!

(There are too many threads about dogs already.)


Unless you mean I had a stick that I beat people with....

I mean that, at times, someone other than yourself took care of the baby

I did the co-sleeping also, for a time.
Family baths though? **** that! Momma needs her shower - sweet, sweet alone time....

[MacMadame]

I mean that, at times, someone other than yourself took care of the baby

Well, of course. The baby had two parents after all...

[TygerTyger]

Well, of course. The baby had two parents after all...

[Anita18]

Is it bad to assume that a baby has an involved father, or just assume that the mother is doing all the work for whatever reason, thus implying that the father is a lazy deadbeat? I think that's a lose/lose situation...

[MacMadame]

Is it bad to assume that a baby has an involved father, or just assume that the mother is doing all the work for whatever reason, thus implying that the father is a lazy deadbeat? I think that's a lose/lose situation...

Exactly.

[Lanie]

I see a lot of crap about how people just distrust men. Even fathers. Like, oh, girls only in the co-op day care? Dads can't supervise, they might molest the girls! Including their own daughter(s)! Ugh.

My husband is way better at the parenting thing than I am.

[TygerTyger]

Exactly.

The eye roll was due to the fact that is is assumed that the father does his bit. That only an ass leaves the mother to do everything.

[Anita18]

The eye roll was due to the fact that is is assumed that the father does his bit.

But then isn't it downright unfair to the fathers who DO do their bit? I prefer to assume the best of people instead of the worst...

To be fair, my mother could only recount one male relative in our entire extended family who changed his children's diapers (the couple is now divorced and the children are estranged from their mother), but there's still a huge difference between "not knowing exactly what to do with a baby" and "ditching his children and their mother and providing no support whatsoever."

I mean, my dad never quite knew what to do with babies, but he got into the whole fathering thing once we were older and could play baseball with him. Quite different from a deadbeat.

My friends with twins...the dad obviously HAS to get involved. He can't breastfeed the babies himself, since he lacks the capability to do so, but mom can only physically handle one baby at a time!

[michiruwater]

The eye roll was due to the fact that is is assumed that the father does his bit.

Should we just automatically assume that the father does not do his bit? I mean, shouldn't that be a pretty fair assumption to make?

That only an ass leaves the mother to do everything.

Um, yes. That is true. I would absolutely call someone who leaves the mother to do everything an ass.