Time Magazine's Breastfeeding Cover

[skipaway]

All I can say is, Wow.

Current Time Magazine

"The kid on the cover of this week's Time magazine is really going to hate middle school," Gavin Purcell observed

[jeffisjeff]

Of course Time would have to choose a mother who actually looks like a model.

I would be nice if they actually let me read the article associated with the cover. I've been curious whether a woman can do attachment parent and hold down a full time job outside of the home. It just doesn't seem possible...

I was able to read the following column, which accompanied the cover story and is rather interesting:

http://ideas.time.com/2012/05/10/the...s-it-stand-up/

[agalisgv]

I've been curious whether a woman can do attachment parent and hold down a full time job outside of the home. It just doesn't seem possible...

Not sure what all goes into attachment parenting, but extended breastfeeding isn't difficult to do with a full-time job because by the time the baby is older, s/he is typically only nursing in the morning and/or evening.

FWIW, I breastfed both my babies for a good amount of time with no bottles, and worked full-time outside the home.

[skategal]

Co-sleeping/family bed should also be compatible with full-time work outside the home.

[VALuvsMKwan]

Of course Time would have to choose a mother who actually looks like a model.

I would be nice if they actually let me read the article associated with the cover. I've been curious whether a woman can do attachment parent and hold down a full time job outside of the home. It just doesn't seem possible...

I was able to read the following column, which accompanied the cover story and is rather interesting:

http://ideas.time.com/2012/05/10/the...s-it-stand-up/

Not having read the article, I am reacting strictly to contents of posts here, and therefore...ATTACHMENT PARENT? Does that include umbilical cord still being intact?

[Prancer]

Not having read the article, I am reacting strictly to contents of posts here, and therefore...ATTACHMENT PARENT? Does that include umbilical cord still being intact?

Attachment Parenting

[Anita18]

Attachment Parenting

Just sounds like....being a parent.

[Prancer]

Just sounds like....being a parent.

Uh, not exactly.

AP calls for extended breastfeeding, co-sleeping, and a whole host of other things.

AP principals: http://www.attachmentparenting.org/p...principles.php

[barbk]

Co-sleeping/family bed should also be compatible with full-time work outside the home.

It is also compatible with a very high percentage of the remaining sudden infant deaths.
http://www.medscape.org/viewarticle/762302

[agalisgv]

It is also compatible with a very high percentage of the remaining sudden infant deaths.
http://www.medscape.org/viewarticle/762302

Your article won't open for me, but aren't most infant deaths related to co-sleeping because of alcohol/drug impairment on the part of the parent?

Just over half -- 54% -- of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) cases in southwest England occurred when the baby was co-sleeping in the same bed as a parent, a case-control study showed.

That compares with 20% of infants among randomly selected families and controls deemed to be at high risk for SIDS, Peter Fleming, MBChB, PhD, of the University of Bristol in England, and colleagues reported online in BMJ.

Much of the elevated risk appeared to be attributable to drug and alcohol use among the parents.

http://www.medpagetoday.com/Pediatri...diatrics/16428

[skatesindreams]

It seems like the latest thing to make parents feel guilty about if they don't choose to do this.
I'd be worried about un-healthy parent/child relationships later in life, as well.

[susan6]

We've had some local ads warning parents to not have their babies sleep in the same bed, that putting them in an empty/uncluttered crib is safer. Given the co-sleeping trend, I thought it was kind of weird.

[maatTheViking]

SIDS: I find it interesting that the advice is regional - except sleeping on the back, which seems to be the number 1 prevention against SIDS. In the US they advice to have the baby sleep in an empty crib, using sleepsacks etc. In Denmark everyone uses down comforters (ugh I hate sheets and have my importet comforters!) including babies. On the other hand, they advice that the room the baby sleeps in is cool, around 16 degrees C. (about 60 F).

I also think it might be more normal in Denmark to have the infant sleep in your bed (comforters and all), but I am not sure.

Attachement parenting: I think of it more as a gradual thing, and a reaction to the seperation/Cry it out/independence trend - baby is supposed to be able to sleep by itslef by 6months, not get fed on demand anymore, and so forth.
Personally, I feel most parents would do something in between - whatever works for you. I find it odd when people get 'married' to an idea - families are different.

[DFJ]

Call me selfish but I quite liked having some time to myself at the end of the day. My kids never slept with me and they grew up to be normal, healthy children (and adults).

My girlfiend's daughter had the most beautiful 9-month old little girl. She was crying early one morning so her mom brought her to bed with her and they both fell back to sleep. When mom woke up, her baby girl had died. Horrific story. Nothing could revive her. Now her mom still lives with the horrible thought that she may have smothered her daughter. Nothing anyone said to her could make her feel differently. No thanks...babies are fine in their own space.

[Hannahclear]

I hate Dr. Sears with the fire of a thousand suns. That damn Baby Book really messed with my head when I was in a very new and unfamiliar mental space.

[danceronice]

My girlfiend's daughter had the most beautiful 9-month old little girl. She was crying early one morning so her mom brought her to bed with her and they both fell back to sleep. When mom woke up, her baby girl had died. Horrific story. Nothing could revive her. Now her mom still lives with the horrible thought that she may have smothered her daughter. Nothing anyone said to her could make her feel differently. No thanks...babies are fine in their own space.

Well...she probably did. That's not unheard of and why there are ad campaigns telling parents to put babies in cribs where they belong.

I don't know, the page Prancer linked to sounds like a recipe for spoiled kids who think the world revolves around them.

[IceAlisa]

This woman's boobs aren't big enough to have a significant amount of milk. Why is she still doing it?

[Prancer]

It seems like the latest thing to make parents feel guilty about if they don't choose to do this.

There were parents trying to make me feel guilty about not doing this 18 years ago.

Nothing unusual in that. People try to make parents feel guilty for everything.

Personally, I feel most parents would do something in between - whatever works for you. I find it odd when people get 'married' to an idea - families are different.

I think most new parents are scared half to death and thus get very caught up in doing things the right way; some of them don't get over it. And thanks to Freud, we all believe that parenting determines destiny, so heaven forfend that a parent do it the wrong way.

[IceAlisa]

I remember being scared to death as a new mom and being terrified of not doing things "the right way" whatever that means. I was worried about not producing enough milk, about my son being hungry, about changing his diaper every time he nursed (not sure where I got that idea) about him feeling fussy and me thinking I ate something that made him that way, this is after I eschewed all cabbage, broccoli, onions, caffeine and refined sugar from my diet.

Thankfully, it got better, it had to. And Freud is very old school. Modern child development classes don't emphasize Freud nearly as much and some not at all.

[Holley Calmes]

All I can say is, Wow.

All I can say is that someone felt compelled to have their photo on a major magazine cover with their 3 year old stuck orally to their left tit. I mean, who the hell would do that? The fact that she's so young and modelish make me go....right! Why not the Mom-next-door?

I have no problem if someone wants to breastfeed their kid until they shove him down the aisle to meet his bride. It's none of my business. But that cover smacks of sensationalism. Barf! Wasn't there something like this on Game of Thrones? Little weevil of a kid and a vicious mother... (maybe that's my problem...)