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    What Do I Wear?

    A long time friend from elementary school has invited me to her wedding. The catholic church ceremony will be at 1:30pm and the reception 5:00pm at Hyatt Regency. The invitation has a teal border on white textured card stock with black non-raised printing (I know a lot of times the invitations give clues on how formal the occasion will be). The reception info card states "Formal Attire" and "An Adult Affair". So... what do I wear to this? Since it doesn't state "Black Tie" I'm assuming that hubby's not required to wear a tux, but a nice classic black suit would be fine. How about me? I don't have to be in a gown, do I? Would something like this dress in navy be appropriate? Will I have to wear something more like these? Please help, I've been a stay at home mom since 1999 and the fanciest I get is a little cotton sundress or jeans and a pretty top with wedges. I'm absolutely clueless!
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    I think that the short dress you linked, with pretty jewelry and high heels would work well. So will your husband's black suit. I personally would not wear a long dress. Many people are attending weddings in very informal garb these days (blazer and jeans for guys, blouse and capris for gals), so my guess is that is what the bride and groom wanted to avoid. If you still feel uncertain, call your friend or someone else in the bridal party and ask their advice. Be comfortable and enjoy the celebration!

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    Love the short dress you picked -- with glitzy sandals and sparklies it should be absolutely fine -- and perfectly okay to wear simpler shoes and a shawl or something if needed to the church. (Or something different entirely if you're going home/hotel room between the service and the reception.)

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    The first dress is beautiful!!! I'm actually going to a wedding this weekend myself, and as usual I wait till the last minute, because I have no clue what to wear

    Short dresses can still be considered as formal, but it never hurts to double check with the bride!

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    Definitely check with the bride. If a long gown is not required, go with that blue dress, nice choice.
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    Quote Originally Posted by myhoneyhoney View Post
    Would something like this dress in navy be appropriate? Will I have to wear something more like these?
    Buy this one..... and do not worry if you dress can be long or short......

    http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/a...5449&LinkType=

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    I vote for the short dress too. I work at a lot of the 5-star hotels in Southern California where there are constant weddings going on. You see people in everything; the short dress is fine. The only time I'll see a lot of women in long dresses would be something like a Persian wedding--and even then, there will be some short dresses. Put on some heels and jewelry with it and you'll do great.

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    Thanks for all the input! I'm really liking that short dress as well, looks pretty yet comfortable. Now i just need to decide which color... purple or blue since those two are the only ones available in 4.

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    What kind of coloring do you have? If you have dark hair, go with the blue.
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    I love the short dress! Get that one. Purple and blue are my favorite colors and I love them both. I can't decide which one I like more. Although the blue would probably go better with what your husband wears.

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    I'd go with the shorter dress. Since the ceremony is in a church, I would add a shawl or dressy matching jacket (just in case there are any rules about covering your shoulders/arms).
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    Love the dress. Please make sure you have comfortable shoes to wear. Those sparkly, strappy sandals look great on the rack and may feel fine in the store, but may kill after an hour or two standing around. A closed toe or peep toe pump in a metallic might be more comfortable for an 8 hour event.
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    Another vote for the short dress. I like the purple better, but then I always do.

    Another question (especially for IA and Tinami and anyone else in northern California...)

    I have a fairly fancy dinner in San Francisco at the end of June. Remembering Mark Twain's famous remark about SF summers, it's not going to be hot, right? I won't roast if I get something with sleeves?

    I hate buying cocktail type dresses, by the time I need to wear it again it's out of style.

    ETA: I was thinking something like this: http://www1.bloomingdales.com/shop/p...3D2%26rid%3D37
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    Go for the short dress. Even for a "black tie" affair, cocktail (short) is appropriate. The trend is away from gowns, even for the bridal party and mothers of the bride/groom. The only taboo that I believe still stands for weddings is that female guests should not wear white or ivory, that is for the bride.

    As for color, I'd go with the purple. Purple is very on trend right now. The blue is nice, but it looks a little bright. The purple is richer. I'd do a silver, strappy shoe. Do not try to match the dress, very dated look. Keep in mind that nude stockings are very out of style, especially with a strappy shoe. You might want to treat yourself a pedicure . And if your legs are pale, a self tanner.

    I was at wedding in February that was crazy! It was in NYC, at a very nice venue. The bridesmaids wore whatever! One wore a long black flawy dress, two wore short black fitted dresses, one wore a woman's version of a tux (w/pants), one wore black trousers with a black sequined jacket, and one wore khakis and a tank top with a shawl (not just inappropriate for a wedding, but for the season)! Some of the guests were equally inappropriately dressed. One guy wore a button down shirt with a knit vest, which had skulls printed on it! Crazy! The bride, the bride's family and my husband and I were the only ones wearing appropriate clothing. Even the groom dressed oddly - a purple velvet blazer with black slacks and a white shirt. The groomsmen all wore nice suits, but not matching.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PRlady View Post
    Another vote for the short dress. I like the purple better, but then I always do.

    Another question (especially for IA and Tinami and anyone else in northern California...)

    I have a fairly fancy dinner in San Francisco at the end of June. Remembering Mark Twain's famous remark about SF summers, it's not going to be hot, right? I won't roast if I get something with sleeves?

    I hate buying cocktail type dresses, by the time I need to wear it again it's out of style.

    ETA: I was thinking something like this: http://www1.bloomingdales.com/shop/p...3D2%26rid%3D37
    Great dress! I have something similar in black. I wouldn't worry about the weather. Even if it's warm outside, it will be air-conditioned inside. You will probably be glad for sleeves.

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    Quote Originally Posted by paskatefan View Post
    I'd go with the shorter dress. Since the ceremony is in a church, I would add a shawl or dressy matching jacket (just in case there are any rules about covering your shoulders/arms).
    I was going to say, that's too open/v-necked for a proper church service, Catholic or not (there's no RULE anymore about covering up but depending on how Catholic we're talking, ie cafeteria-Catholics who are just having hte quick service or a full Mass and the whole deal, it's too much skin for church) but put a nice bolero or jacket over it and you'd be fine.

    I'd call and check, but if it doesn't say "Black Tie" cocktail should be formal enough.

    And this is why I buy vintage or make my own. What's "in" never factors into it. Okay, okay, MOM makes it, as I can quilt but I can't sew anything that fits a human body. Also finding clothing that doesn't suck is borderline-impossible off the rack, especially as dance clothes have utterly ruined me for dresses in the average department-store price point. (Me, going through the formals at Macy's, already hampered by needing it to be full-length, black, white, or black and white-"Ew, this feels awful. Ew, this looks cheap. Ew, this is crappy fabric. Ew, whoever made this can't sew." And looking at the price tags and realizing yes, dresses in the $100-200 range are NOT going to be especially well-made, so might as well buy the fabric and start from scratch.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by cruisin View Post
    I was at wedding in February that was crazy! It was in NYC, at a very nice venue. The bridesmaids wore whatever! One wore a long black flawy dress, two wore short black fitted dresses, one wore a woman's version of a tux (w/pants), one wore black trousers with a black sequined jacket, and one wore khakis and a tank top with a shawl (not just inappropriate for a wedding, but for the season)! Some of the guests were equally inappropriately dressed. One guy wore a button down shirt with a knit vest, which had skulls printed on it! Crazy! The bride, the bride's family and my husband and I were the only ones wearing appropriate clothing. Even the groom dressed oddly - a purple velvet blazer with black slacks and a white shirt. The groomsmen all wore nice suits, but not matching.
    I was at a mix and match wedding last fall. The bride wore a full out enormous strapless ball gown and cathedral length veil and the groom wore an open shirt and jacket that didn't match his pants. One groomsman wore a tux, the others shirts and pants--only one with a tie. The bridesmaids had floor length gowns. It was like two separate wedding parties accidentally thrown together. And it was at a hunting lodge. So the female half of the bridal party was way off for the setting--they belonged at an ornate cathedral or a five star hotel or something. And the guests...everything from cocktail dresses and suits to leggings and sweatshirts. It was insane.

    Then there were the colors...royal blue invites. Camo theme on the programs. bright reds, whites and pinks in the bouquets. Blue bridesmaid dresses. And the tables were decorated with fake fall leaves in oranges, deep reds, yellows... I felt like she just bought random stuff on clearance and threw it together after spending every penny on her ostentatious dress that did not belong at a hunting lodge!

    On-topic: Love the short cocktail dress you linked. I would wear that if I were you. And unless you are going to a Catholic church in the diocese of Lincoln, Nebraska, you shouldn't need to worry about covering your shoulders in church. A shawl or something may be nice for air conditioning, though.

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    That short dress is adorable! Should be just fine for a wedding.
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    Quote Originally Posted by myhoneyhoney View Post
    Thanks for all the input! I'm really liking that short dress as well, looks pretty yet comfortable. Now i just need to decide which color... purple or blue since those two are the only ones available in 4.
    Either color is fine, and I'd go with a metallic shoe. Are you traveling for the wedding so you can go back to your hotel room if there is a break between the ceremony and the reception? If not, I would take a comfortable slide in the car because it sounds like there might be a photo break in between. That way you can slip in and out of fancier shoes and give your feet a break.

    Quote Originally Posted by PRlady View Post
    I have a fairly fancy dinner in San Francisco at the end of June. Remembering Mark Twain's famous remark about SF summers, it's not going to be hot, right? I won't roast if I get something with sleeves?
    I have been to SF in Jan, March, May, June, Sept, Oct, and Dec, and no matter what time of year, I am always freezing.

    Last time I went to an evening formal wedding, I was dressed in black and my mother went off on how that was taboo. So I changed to a pale blue suit. Half the women at the wedding were in black. It's no longer taboo for night receptions.
    I think I will have a snack and take a nap before I eat and go to sleep.

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    ^^ It used to be that black and red were no-nos at weddings. Now, either is fine. Just not (as I said up thread) white or ivory. And a short cocktail dress is considered just as formal as a gown for most black tie affairs.

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