We’ve all got needs. Big, beautiful, scary, appropriate, audacious, real, needs. Sometimes they can be fulfilled and sometimes… But a person with an eating disorder does not trust his / her humane right to have needs. Maybe this person’s needs were not met early on and she / he mistook this personal flaw. (Wrong!) Maybe this person is still unsure that is it okay for needs to exist. (WRONG!!) Maybe this person is just suffering from a situation that feels so entrapping and painful that they would rather divvy out their suffering in controllable kcals. (I’m SO sorry…)
Either way– ALL ways, when you are in a disordered mindset, your own needs, beyond proving a point without words, do not exist. Except they are the biggest elephant in the room. (No pun intended.) And, people will care. But, if you are a championing denial, no needs, and ‘I’m fine’ (you’re not) those caring people will not have a clue what to do. They’ll tell you to eat a sandwich.
(Which is ‘not the point!!!’– you want to cry. But, on the other hand, can you really blame them?)