I really don't care much for the ring. And it's so very non-traditional that when my family saw it I had to explain what it was. (It's yellow mother of pearl crescent moon shaped butterfly "wings" with diamond chips for the "body"). They thought it was costume jewerly. He tried really hard to find something with butterflies, that he basically told me he bought the first one he found. I love him. I love that he tried to get something special since he knows I like butterflies. But people don't realize its an engagement ring. I've only been engaged a day and have gotten several "oh" reactions (not the good kind of "oh") when I showed them my ring. It's taking the joy out of it, especially when my own mother reacted that way. I ended up crying tonight because of it. He says I shouldn't care about what other people say and that he bought it because he wanted something different and special for me, but maybe he just hasn't learned in the years we've known each other how much I do care sometimes.
And....the way it's designed it snags on everything with the "wingtips" because of how they remain straight, pointy, and exposed when I bend my fingers. So when it snags the one lower "wingtip" is then jammed into my knuckle and its already starting to bruise. I already can tell I won't be able to wear it to work as it will snag everywhere when I'm lifting patients and putting on and removing gloves, and shred my knuckle in the process. And it's hurting already. I told him how it made me sad that my family reacted that way to seeing it and showed him the bruising and said how it will make me sad to have a ring that I really can't functionally wear for the majority of my day, but I don't think he really understands. How big a spoiled bitch am I? I want to love it so badly, but right now wearing it really hurts and I don't see any way in which they could alter it to keep it from snagging and pressing into my knuckle. And I don't even know where we would find a wedding band to fit it (even my aunt said "you won't find anything to fit that ring"). And custom bands are $$$$$.
I love him. I don't want to hurt his feelings. The ring is nice, it's special because he gave it to me for our engagement. However I want a ring that I can wear pain-free all day everyday, and not leave it at home since it snags at work. But most of all it's just not...me.