So...this is pretty much the worst time of year to be going through family drama, but I figured it wouldn't hurt to come on FSU to see if anyone had some objective advice to give....
Basically my Aunt is about to lose her house because she tried to dodge paying her property taxes for ages. She asked my father to co-sign a loan for her so she could keep her house. My father said no, which I think he was well within his rights to do so considering my Aunt's history of financial instability and conning other family members out of money. The fact that my Father declined to co-sign angered my Grandmother to the point where she is now sending threatening letters to my parents. My parents have had a strained relationship with my Grandmother for the past 20 years, partly because my Aunt and my Father don't see eye to eye on a lot of things, and he's constantly calling her out on her leeching off of and conning other family members. This woman is so vile she used her own sons social security number to get a credit card and basically trashed his credit. For some reason my Grandmother refuses to acknowledge any of my Aunt's wrong doings, and expects other family members come to her rescue. She can do no wrong, but for some reason my father is the eville bad guy for thinking of preserving his credit and thinking of having to pay for my sisters college education.
Ideally my parents should just cut off all communications with my Aunt and Grandmother, but there's a big honking catch-22. My parents purchased their house jointly with my grand parents. My grandfather passed away years ago, but legally half of their house belongs to my grandmother.
My parents are good people, but they aren't exactly the brightest bulbs. They never should have purchased a house with someone who had proven themselves to be manipulative, calculating, and deceitful, just because that person happens to be your mother/MIL.
On one hand I feel for my parents because they do a lot for my grandmother despite the strained relationship. But on the other hand I really want them to stop crying about being the victims of my Grandmother/Aunt's perpetual drama and take action!
I know my parents basically need to not own a house with my Grandmother anymore. I figure the steps they could take would be to either buy out her portion of the house, or to sell the house split the money with her and start over. Does that make sense to anyone? If they tried to buy her out could she refuse? Would they have to take her to court if she refused both options? I don't know much about this subject but I know that my parents need to take some sort of action if they want to live in peace.
Any advice/thoughts would be greatly appreciated!