Let me just say that I'm more of a reader on this board than a poster. I really feel like I don't have much to contribute to posts so that I is why I normally just read the posts. I do think there is some good advice that is given here and that is why I am now asking for advice.
Here goes..I befriended a soldier a few years ago through a program where I would send this soldier care packages every month. Well, this soldier and I ended up having a lot in common and we would share things. He's even told me things that he hasn't told anyone else, and I do believe that because of what he told me. We've talked on the phone and have flirted with each other at times. I really do enjoy talking to this guy and he's even invited me to come visit him in Boston since I've always wanted to go there and visit the historical sites.
The issue is my looks. He knows what my face looks like but not my body. He has asked for more pics and I always give him an excuse about why I didn't send a pic. I haven't sent him a pic because I am overweight and I am ashamed in how I look. I am trying to lose weight but it's hard. I know I do need to tell him about my body but I don't know how I should do it. Should I send him a pic or just tell him? I know I need to do this soon but I am afraid that he will stop talking to me. Part of me feels like he should have an idea that I am overweight since I keep giving him excuses for not sending him a pic (excuses like."oh, my camera broke', "phone is not charged" "left the camera/phone at my folks house" and so on). But I also know that if he walks away from me then he's not worth being a friend. So, how would you tell someone about your body? In case you are wandering, yeah, I do have very low self-esteem. I've always have and always will.